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I have just recently returned to Al-anon and I feel like Im home again. I cant really say why I chose to live the insanity for the last 5 years but Im not going to be too hard on myself on that one. Im working on detaching.....a really tough one for me and knowing where to draw the line on what is enabling and what is not in some instances. Today my ah stopped by the house to get a change of clothes before returning to his drinking buddies house down the street. I explained that from now on I expect him to call me when he is not going to come home as a common courtesy. It has become a habit for him to just not come home, or to claim he stayed in the garage which he supposedly moved into(as a cover for his staying out all night) I no longer go looking for him or stay up all night but I do expect some common courtesy here. He looked at me and made the comment well at least Im drinking instead of doing drugs and sleeping with women and alcohol is the lesser of the evils.............He switches his addiction like I switch underwear sometimes LOL.............I was speechless at the lesser of the evils comment and thought Im sooo thankful I have come back to al anon......I am in the right place!
My AW never calls either. It's like a slap in the face. makes me feel like I'm not even worth a 5 second phone call. I stopped expecting one & it's one less thing to upset me. She did text me the other night. It didn't make me feel any better. I guess i can kind of appreciate that she made some effort, but bottom line is she was out drunk all night & I was abandoned. But she did try, which is difficult for them to do.
