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It always boggles my mind how everything seems to be connected. The last few days I've been doing some 12th step work, just listening mostly. Sometimes we just need someone to listen and to interject that well-timed uh-huh.....oh really?.....and how did that make you feel?
So then we had our little meeting tonight and the discussion was on step twelve. And someone said you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink the water if he'd rather drink something else. All you can do is show him the water and let them know it's his for the taking.
Sometimes I have to remind myself that if I'm more interested in someone's recovery than they seem to be, then maybe it's time to step back, take the focus off them, put it back on me. That's because its a lot easier to carry the water than it is to carry the horse.
know what I mean, jellybean.
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Not all my days are priceless, but none of them are worthless, anymore.
Sure do! It takes a great program to have the awareness, acceptance and wisdom to recognize how we want to fix and help and how to stop. Sending you love and support!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Dear Wolfie, in my line of work I have had to deal with this issue so many times. I have had to learn the same lesson over many times!
True, you can lead a horse to water, and you can't MAKE him drink........But, I will admit to putting salt in the oats. Don't tell anyone else, though.
