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I enrolled in school for a RN program and there is a 1 year waiting list, but I have lots of prereq's to get done while I am waiting. It feels good to be setting goals and actually taking the steps to follow through. I used to talk myself out of it and I almost did this time too. I love this program and how it helps me to move through the old me and break out into what I really want and go for it.
On a side not I have been on a dating site for over a year and I only went on 1 date 6 months ago. Now the next 2 weeks I set up 2 dates. I am feeling good and worthy again. I am so glad to just feel like I am going to start living again, but in a healthier way than ever before. I had to build up for the move and now I feel myself breakingfree again. Thanks so much for all the love and support.
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
Al-Anon/Alateen Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 800-344-2666
" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Congrats!! And about the dating site - I met my wonderful husband who is not an alcoholic on eHarmony. ( my first husband was an A and a drug addict). But I set criteria for accepting dates because I refused to get into any relationship with a drinker again. First I looked at the picture - if he was in a bar or with girls or had beers and buddies around this told me he was a partier which is something I didn't want so I would delete him. If during conversations he boasted about drinking or how drunk he got he was gone. The whole reason to date is to find companionship and I refused to even entertain the idea of a relationship with someone who liked to drink too much.
And I'm glad I did it because I have a wonderful husband and a beautiful newborn. And my husband drinks on occasion, about a beer or two a month and that is perfectly fine.
Good luck with everything.
Also, remember the rules about online dating - meet your date in a neutral location, never tell him where you live, tell a fried where you are going, when you will be home and your date's name. I also had a friend call me in the middle of my dates to check on me.
I remember a wonderful story at an Al-Anon conference some years ago, shared by this awesome speaker, who had just achieved her R.N. designation, at the age of 50..... She had been working through a lot of issues with her sponsor, and they got to a point in her recovery where her sponsor asked her to talk about any lifelong dreams or aspirations she may have once had....
The lady said "I always wanted to be a nurse".....
The sponsor replied "so what's stopping you?"...
The lady said "well, by the time I finished my training, I would be 50 years old".....
The sponsor told her "well, to the best of my understanding, you'll be 50 years old by that time anyway, why not pursue your dream?"
I LOVE that story, and really happy for you that you are signed up for the program, AND that you are going on a couple of dates - whoo hoo!!!
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
I got my RN at 38 years old. It was the best decision I have ever made for myself. It is an excellent career, and you are doing something so rewarding. Congratulations to you! I love being a Nurse. I have been in the field 10 years now, and I wouldn't change it for anything. One thing that you have to remember, through nursing school and through the career, is to take time for yourself. Nurses have a huge burnout rate. We take care of our patients, our families, and sometimes forget about ourselves. Once you start taking your pre-nursing classes, just don't ever give up. It is a lot of work to get from here to there, but so worth it in the end. I put all the classes on a piece of paper on my refrigerator, and as I completed each one I crossed it off. Each time I completed a class or a semester, it was a class or semester, I would never have to do again. As you watch the list shrink, you see progress, and you keep going. I had 4 small kids when I went through nursing school. It was tough, but I have never regreted it. I graduated with Honors and a 3.8 GPA. You will be so proud of yourself in the end and while you are doing it. Also, you will make life long friends!
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Katfshh
~The most beautiful sunsets are made by cloudy skies~
Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I just love you my MIP family so much! I cam on here feeling a bit lonesome since my kids opted to go by there Dad for fireworks and old friends, I don't blame them one bit and gave them the option. But I came home thinking hmmmmm now what and came on here and feel better already just feeling all the support from everyone. Now I can catch up on some relaxing me time! Sending you all love and support.
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
Al-Anon/Alateen Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 800-344-2666
" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."