I'm an Al-Anon beginner, and Al-Anon does not come naturally to me, but I've been studying the concept of loving detachment, and I had a chance to apply it a few days ago.

My AH and I went to see a movie screening at a local cemetery over the weekend.  We were with friends, and everyone brought picnics and wine.  AH drank most of our wine, and most of everyone else's.  Instead of berating him, I just let it go - he's going to drink however much he wants, no matter what I say, and his drinking is a reflection on him, not me.  

By the end of the movie, he was having trouble standing.

On the way back to the car, AH stopped to urinate against a mausoleum.  Instead of freaking out or screaming at him, I just walked to the car, loaded our stuff and waited.  I had to wait a while for him to make his way to the car, but eventually he did and I drove us home without incident. 

Ordinarily, I would've started screaming and crying when he stopped to pee on someone's grave, and wouldn't have come up for air for hours.  But I didn't cry the entire time.  I didn't scream at him.  In fact, I said almost nothing to him at all.  I stayed silent in the car.  When we got home, I stayed silent.  The next morning, I woke him up at 7:00 and told him that we'd need to leave for breakfast with my family in an hour.  He said okay, as if he felt fine and nothing had happened.  I asked him why he wouldn't get in the car the night before and he said he didn't remember.  I explained as kindly as I could, but still truthfully, what had happened.  AH can put on a good show, and I'll never know how he actually felt, but later that day he said he felt very ashamed.  It was the first time I could remember him expressing any shame or remorse about his drinking.