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So I will attend my very first Al-Anon meeting tomorrow...thanks to my husband for making my life a living hell with his drinking and abusiveness! I wonder if it's too late for me. I have begun to hate him for everything he has put me through the last seven years. We now have a two yr old daughter together and she got to witness a very heated and abusive fight last night thanks to my husband's cruelty when he drinks. He even said I was a horrible wife and mother in front of her! She was so scared and I am so mad at him for blaming me for everything! I wish I could just leave but our daughter adores him and I couldn't take her away from him but I can't trust him to be responsible with her without me around. Even when I'm there, like last night, it get's way out of control. Don't get me wrong...he is a VERY high-functioning alcoholic...he works a job, works around the house, is not at all lazy. But, he's so mean!!!!! Help!
I am glad that you have found an alanon face to face meeting and are planning to attend. Living with the disease of alcoholism is very destructive to our emotional and spiritual well being.
Meetings, connecting with people who understand as few others can, helped me to break the isolation and develop new constructive tools to live by.
Having accepted that alcoholism was a 3 fold disease over which I was powerless, it made sense to focus on myself and attempt to find my serenity and peace once again.
Please keep coming back here and sharing the journey
Hi juliebug,
Welcome to Al-Anon!
The meeting is for you. Many continue going after their relationships ended. So, it is not too late. I am glad you are making it. I wish you the best at the meeting. If you are not really happy with the group, try a different one. I am overly happy with my third group
Hi Juliebug! Welcome, I am somewhat new here as well, though I have been in and out during crisis modes. I think this time I will stick around. This is a great place, and the only reason I ever went to a Face to Face meeting was because those on this board encouraged me to. It was a great decision.
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My only comment here except to say that at this point you must put you and your daughter first above all. I was a child of a mean angry drunk and those memories are seared into my brain. So please get yourself to an Alanon meeting and work the program. You will not be sorry. 2nd is the saying "functioning alcoholic" is an oxymoron. Yes he may be able to hold down a job and work around the house etc. But if he was truly a functional person he would be able to do it all without thinking about that drink at the end of the day to escape reality. I am glad you found us, please keep posting as you progress in YOUR program! Blessings
Hi juliebug,
Welcome to Al-Anon!
The meeting is for you. Many continue going after their relationships ended. So, it is not too late. I am glad you are making it. I wish you the best at the meeting. If you are not really happy with the group, try a different one. I am overly happy with my third group 
This is a great place, and the only reason I ever went to a Face to Face meeting was because those on this board encouraged me to. It was a great decision.