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I am new to the al-anon world and I'm focusing on detachment. My AH has been binge drinking for a few days and I'm trying to set boundaries so that I can stop finding myself angry every time he goes to buy alcohol and drinks. I know that my choices are mine and his choice are his, and that even though I do not like his behavior, I still love him as a person.
I feel like I have been doing a pretty good job at focusing on myself and my happiness the last few days, but last night he drove to the store after drinking 2 bottles of wine to get vodka and I let my anger show. AH's mom is also staying with us this week and she gave him a pretty good rashing apparently. I went to bed to avoid him after I got angry, but I guess he dumped the alcohol he bought and this morning he says he will go to AA because his Mom and I are not allowing him to drink. I feel like he has no chance of success if THIS is the reason he is stopping. Doesn't he have to decide for himself that he should quit? Can anyone give me some insight? Thanks so much!
Alcoholics use many excuses to justify their behavior. The disease looks for anyone to blame or justify what they really want to do . That being said, if an alcoholic is willing to walk into an AA meeting and explore the program who can tell what HP will do.
I would keep attending my meetings and Let Go and Let God.
I learned to not pay much attention to what promises are made * I am sure they mean them at the time * I watch what people do not what they say . Keep going to your meetings you need support from people who have been where your at right now . If you have our daily reader the ODAT go to page on July 14th that page and our detachment pamphlet changed my life , i read it every day for six months until I was actually working it . change takes time and it only takes one person to create change regardless of what he does keep the focus on your needs and your gonna be just fine . what ever reason he gives for going to AA it only matters that he tries who knows he may hear something that he needs to hear and decide to work the AA program for himself .. there is always hope . Louise
Thanks! I don't have the Daily Reader yet but I'm ordering it now! I do have the Detachment pamphlet and it helps tremendously. My AH is at an afternoon AA meeting right now. Thank God!! Hoping he hears something he needs to hear!
I think that is wonderful that you are detaching and taking care of yourself. So happy to hear that your AH is at an AA meeting today. From what I hear, there is always something there for them to take with them. God works in wonderful ways!! I know I have gotten something out of every Alanon meeting I have gone to. And when I talked to my AF after he gets home from a meeting he ALWAYS gets something out of his meetings.
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