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esh please? Our 24 year old daughter has returned home briefly while she works and saves to return to eductaion in october to do a masters, I am feeling my feelings diffrently and whilst I am changing she is sooooo angry and lashing out verbally at myself and husband, she is a deeply loyal and caring person, and I feel she has the making of an enabler, she is angry I go about my day without her dad, it is his choice he is always welcome where ever whatever I do but he choses not too, I don't know how to handle her I understnad why she feels this way just don't know how to point her in the right direction, This is all new to me I would always fall back on my self pity but I don't want to do that anymore been there done that, I have suggested alanon but she won't have any of it, I am still upbeat and pressing forward I know we have all been affected in different ways it is a family decease isn't it?
All you can do is show her your great program tools by living them, she will see how it works and realize you are better for it. Sending you much love and support!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
You are right -this is a family disease and we are powerless over people places and things.
Remember if we are using program tools and putting principles above personalities we do not have we do not have to justify, defend or explain our actions.
Growing up with the disease of alcoholism is difficult so your daughter's anger is understandable. If she will not seek help in alanon or alateen then perhaps you can suggest she read "Getting them Sober or other alanon literature that might help.
Our kids no matter how old they are think that we should be able to fix it they simply dont understand , keep living your life focusing on your own needs . If your attending meetings pick up the 20 questions pamphlet for adult children , she just may identify and seek help herself .
