The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
In working on my recovery, I realize my mindset is my worst enemy, self pity can really take its toll. Here is my new reality:
My life is the collective of MY choices, good and bad. I am not a victim.
I make a choice every day to stay with my AH, I too can make a choice tomorrow to leave for any reason or no reason at all. I am not a prisoner.
I can respond to my AH when he is drunk and tryng to pick a fight by responding in healthy ways or in engaging in his madness. I am not a child.
I make a choice every time he tries to cut me down or make me feel bad about myself by either believing him or knowing that his disease is trying to manipulate me into being as sick as he is. I am not a puppet.
Here is what I am:
Strong
Thoughtful
Caring
Intelligent
Capable
Beautiful
I AM A SURVIVOR. And to all my warrior friends here you too are all these things and more. Take time to today to make your own list of how wonderful you are.
If one owns her own life, then she is in charge and can change things. If it is all somebody else's doing/problem/thing to fix, then she is dependent on somebody else to make her life work.
I'm getting this, more and more.
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It's easy to be graceful until someone steals your cornbread. --Gray Charles
Wow I love ur strength. I hope one day I will be so empowered as u are. Ur words are very encouraging. I am starting to use the program tools to make my life better.
I love love love your share!!! Thanks for being here and YES YOU ARE ALL OF THOSE THINGS AND MORE!!!
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
I liked it so much I copied and pasted it on a word document so I could apply it to my life and this is another one I came up with.
I dont have to respond to his accusations and manipulations at all. I dont have to acknowledge that he even spoke them. It is my choice to react or respond to what he says. I even have the choice to ignore him. I am not an echo.
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Mandy
Don't settle for less than your potenial. Remember, average is as close to the bottom as to the top. ~Unknown
No matter how far you've gone down the wrong road, turn back! ~Unknown
Thanks surfgirl, great share. To the crap negative messages anyone gives out I say CANCEL DELETE ERASE. To the fabulous positive things I say to myself I say YEAH BABY. (((hugs))) Tigger x
