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Jude Moloney


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About 3 years ago my husband started to not have any interest in me.. My Mom died 2 years ago and since then Our marriage has gone down hill from there. He drank a lot, he does no speak to me and will not say sorry when he hurts people's. My brother and 2 sisters are in AA, my brother has cut all ties with us I am totally confused I feel rejected and hurt and do not know how to cope, I also am finding I am starting to drink more than I used to. Any advice would be appreciated. I am new to this.


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Debilyn


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Hi Jude, as the years go by the disease of addiction gets worse and worse as it causes more damage.

"Getting Them Sober," volume one, toby rice drew. great book.

at the bottom of my response are contacts to find you an Al Anon meeting in your area.

Thats a great place to start. I am so sad you are losing your husbands love, but it's out of him being very sick.

Maybe you could call your family privately and ask to talk to them. Let them know you don't understand. They also may be able to talk to you about Al Anon.

I am glad you are here. We are here to guide and suport and share our experiences. love,debilyn



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Welcome Jude, nobody likes rejection, that's for sure (((hugs)))

I encourage you to try not to take it personally, it has nothing to do with you personally. If your family in AA have a desire not to drink, they may be taking care of themselves the best way they can by not being around drinking. To me, it's a spiritual decision to accept powerlessness over your triggers.

If you are concerned about your OWN drinking, I encourage you to try AA for now, and pick up al-anon later. Whatever you decide, keep reaching out, you NEVER have to do this alone again, it's too much for most of us.

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You could also put the alcohol down and come to a face to face meeting in your area where we meet to support and love each other.  That also happens a ton here at MIP so welcome here also.  There is no justification to drink alcohol...learn about the chemical and what it does and you'll also arrive at "no justification".  Al-Anon will give you the affirmations you need so the rejections slip away and then after a while you learn how to affirm yourself truthfully.  Come...change the kind of people you hang with...we're a pretty happy, funny, loving family.

(((((hugs))))) smile



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