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Mwvd


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I don't think I have the energy to stay in this marriage now that I know he is an alcoholic.  I am very sad but know that to stay would be a really bad move.  He is a sweet drunk but I gotta get out.  Without resources, I don't know where to go.  Is there a clearinghouse for housing options...others who may want to pool resources in order to live in a non-drinking home.   I don't drink or smoke or do drugs.  I am 56 years old and have no children.  I have no pets.   Does anyone in the DC metropolitan area need to find a housemate with the above qualities?  I can't dwell on his problems only on a solution for me.  Maybe you are in the same boat.



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Debilyn


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I am proud of your courage to make this decision! You may want to look at Craigslist or place an ad. go to meetings and get to know people, ask them.

You could try the dept of human services also. Did you stick any money away? You may want to consider preparing before you go. Go to meetings come here, let us guide and support you. Be ready for when you leave. This way you could look for a nice room in a big old house or something.

Some like to be the "mom" in a house of college girls or boys! I hope you will think about your options.

That decision is a hard one! But to be making a plan would make the journey much easier!!

Please come back! love,debilyn



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Dolly Llama


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I have great found places to stay on www.airbnb.com. Maybe worth a look.

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Mwvd


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Thanks!  The difficult part is ahead of me, but I'll start saving money now, or rather stop funneling it to his benefit, so that I can build up a safety net.  I really do not know how to relate to him now that I have uncovered his deceptions....and also my own negligent denial.    Ahhh life after the wake-up-call.



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Mwvd


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I'll give it a try...the website.  Thanks



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