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It is happening hugs big hugs, .. you are letting him go slowly and that is ok.
Please be gentle with yourself, we didn't get here overnight and it all takes time.
Hugs P :)
PS - I haven't been to a psychic in years!! You must have had a great time!!!
-- Edited by Pushka on Saturday 9th of June 2012 09:49:07 PM
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Hi all. I had a really cool experience yesterday. I went to an intuitive medium. I know I know, I wasn't a big believer in that kind of stuff but I was curious so I gave it a shot. She knew SO much about me and the things Im going through. It was beyond cool. She gave me some more confirmation that ending my relationship was the best thing I could have ever done. Im really struggling tonight though because he keeps texting me and he knows exactly what to say to get me upset. He's going on and on about how because some stupid psychic told me some crap that Im ending our relationship. Yet again he is blaming someone else for our relationship being over when the person he needs to look at is in the mirror. He's also making me feel bad for going out with my girlfriends and trying to have fun. His words were "you're having the time of your life while i sit at home heartbroken". Unbelievable. I need the strength to let him go and its not happening!!!!
He cannot really stay away when we keep hanging onto them.
What makes you read his texts? What makes you care if he is upset or not about you going out.
I had to look at it was more about me than him. Really looked inside my heart to feel out what was going on. As I shared when i realized he didn''t love me, that was that.
You will let go when you are ready. love,debilyn
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"It's not so much being loved for ourselves, but more for being loved in spite of ourselves."
C-you are having the time of your life, isn't it about time! This is great behavior on your part. If he wants to sit at home with a broken heart, that is HIS choice you have no control over that, period. He is trying to intimidate you, that is all too familiar to me, please recognize it as his attempt to make you feel bad and bring you down to his level of "poor me". Keep your Al-Anon literature close by and consult it often. Be strong! In support Oldergal
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Don't Worry About Growing Old, It Is A Privilege For Some Of Us.....
I'm with everybody who encouraged you to NOT read his hooky texts (trying to hook you back in). Can text messages be deleted? I'd think that would be empowering. And soul-saving, perhaps.
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It's easy to be graceful until someone steals your cornbread. --Gray Charles
I encore what everyone else has said. You are having fun. He has the choice to go out and have fun too. Instead he wants you to go and hold his hand, give up your fun and join his misery. Doesn't sound like a good plan. Not good for YOU!