just now stumbling in - Al-Anon Family Group

marycontrary · Member

just now stumbling in

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs Mary,

Welcome and I'm so glad you are here!! "Let it begin with me" is one of my favorite slogans because for me it's about my own personal responsibility for my own happiness. On this board and if you can make it to face to face meetings you are going to find the love and support, and best of all you are not alone.

I hope you will keep coming back reading and reaching out. The biggest thing is that you are not alone and it really does get better.

Hugs P :)

Findinghope · Veteran Member

Mary,

I've just started reaching out to Al-Anon as well. It's scary, but I've been able to get comfort from people I've talked with in my face to face meetings, as well as online here. I'm envious of the peace that others seem to have obtained, and I just keep telling myself I can get there if I push myself.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation, and hope you're able to get the help you want. It sounds like you're headed in the right direction.

Daisy Girl · Member

Mary Ann, you are not alone. I recently reached the "I can't live like this any more" phase. I have found great strength, hope and encouragement here. Read the boards, ask questions and attend the on-line meetings if you can. Face to face meetings are fantastic (and a little scary the first time), but the people here are wonderful- I have been doing both. Keep coming back, there is possibility for something better!

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome Mary Ann, glad your here.

The best place to start is to read as much of the Alanon material as you can get your hands on.

You can pick a lot of it up at a face to face meeting, or if its too overwhelming to actually go, go in before or after and get the material. First thing we try to absorb and learn is that alcoholism is a disease. We as the spouses and family of an alcoholic learn that we have no power over the disease. We learn to find some kind of peace and serenity in the midst of all the craziness. This alone is enough to know to begin with.

Please keep coming back, we have walked or are still walking in your shoes. We are the only ones that understand what you have gone thru and are still going thru. We hear you. We feel for you. Just dont give up. This alanon works, you just have to keep coming back and dont give up. There is hope.

Luv, Bettina

marycontrary · Member

Thank you P and Hope and Daisygirl and Bettina. Alcoholism is a disease and I know I can't make him stop in any way, or the terrible behavior that results from it. So I have developed some strategies to keep my balance most of the time. I have been alone with it for so long, but for my sons who I've done my best to raise as well as possible in the challenging dynamic. I am not in physical danger but the mental emotional load is becoming a bit much. I don't know what I need exactly, except lately I have been having trouble keeping up because of physical pain due to back issues and my tolerance for dumb stuff has been diminishing. Usually I just ignore him

I would be wonderful to get to a real time meeting and am hoping to find one that is at the right time and location. I will get the reading material for sure.

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome to MIP! There are online meetings here along with this message board. I am glad you are wanting more for your life and for me Al-anon was just the key. A great book that I read in my early recovery was "Getting Them Sober" by Toby Rice Drews. Sending you love and support!

Jennifer · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome Mary Ann :)

MIP is a wonderful place to start an Alanon journey. You will find valuable shares of experience, sharing and hope to help support your journey.

Jen

lacewing · Veteran Member

Welcome to Al-Anon! smile

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Hope to see you in our Room, Mary - SO Glad you found us! Keep coming back - you're SO WORTH IT! biggrin

lacewing ~!~

marycontrary · Member

Thank you very much for your helpful response lacewing. I'll come in one eve this week when the house is quiet. In the meantime I am busy writing and researching about codependency and things about the steps. My attitude is positive and hopeful. thanks.

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