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I read the book the new codependency (Beaty is the aurthor I beleive) ..it was the follow up to Codependent no more... I found myself getting stronger and just connecting to the reading feeling some personal strength etc Doing great on detachment for the most part.
Now Im trying to read It will never happen to me by Claudia Black... and I am struggling to pick it up.. Im just not connecting or "getting" whats being said maybe .... having a little bit of trouble with depression (not in bed all day.. just the blahs.. and unsureness coming back)
My question is .. Is this book by Claudia Blck worth the reading effort... or should I just move to another??
I also bought setting boundaries with adult children but havent started it yet ... my kids arent an issue BUT my AH acts like a child and is an adult in age numbers so I thought it might be helpful ..
Any suggestions on reading materials??
I dont like feeling blah or like I would like someone around to entertain me I know I have to be happy with my own little life, and its only my responsibilty to do this....
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..."expecting the world to treat you fairly because your a good person, is like expecting a bull to not attack you because your a vegetarian "
Baby steps. They help so much. One tiny inch ahead, every day, and then you will find yourself coping in ways you never realized you may achieve. If you don't connect with a book, I say don't force it. Put it down, go online and google what ever feelings you're having. I guarantee someone has written a book about it that will pop in the search result.
This is not really about codependence necessarily, but a book my sister turned me onto years ago has become useful to me lately. Fear seems to be a big part of codependent cycles - at least for me and my sisters.... the book is called Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. google that and see if there are any words that strike you. If not, search around on amazon, too. You can often view pages inside of a book before committing to buying it.
Keep at it! That blah feeling will happen, but it sounds to me like you're pushing through it, just by being here.
Peace.
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"Everything that has ever happened to us is there to make us stronger." - John Trudell
Melodie Beattie "The Language of Letting Go" is a good daily reader. "Getting Them Sober" by Toby Rice Drews vol 1. I have gotten stuck with a couple books in my lifetime and well not every book you are recommended will click and be an amazing read. Keep up the great work!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
If I get that feeling I'm just not ready for the information, I will put it down. I have also found doing the work that is suggested in the Beattie books really helped me a GREAT deal. I was able to take pen to paper and get things out a lot. I made a ton of self discovery during this time.
I've never heard of the book you are reading .. sometimes taking a step away and as someone suggested baby steps, putting it down and picking it back up later. It might be maybe that's just not the book for you and that's ok.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Claudia Black is worth a read...she knows the plan and has tons of insight and experience. I've had her support my own recovery back then. Its been a while since I've heard her mentioned. Take it slow cause Black and Bradshaw and all the other biggies are very helpful.
In support (((((hugs)))))
-- Edited by Jerry F on Thursday 7th of June 2012 10:35:19 PM
I agree... if you aren't feeling it, it isn't the right time. Many times I have put down books I couldn't connect with, only to pick them up six months later and find treasures on every page. Don't beat yourself up about it, try something else and come back to it another day.
