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Ness


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He has been ill for some time with a heart problem which has been caused by stress, over the past few months he has gone more and more down hill. He was up all last night, breathless, panicy & scared,  saw his doc this lunchtime who, at long last after having him swallow all kinds of pills, has had him admitted for tests.

The disease is at the forefront, I lay the blame completely at that door.....I take my stress to al-anon, he has internalised more and more, especially since the death of our Ason.

I asked the other day for hugs & I want you to know they are now wrapped around me like a warm blanket.

Im stressed, tired, but relieved he's in the right place.

(((((Ness)))))x



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Hi!  I said a prayer for you and your husband.  Here is a big hug for you and give your husband one also.  God bless you!

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Ness...prayers for you and your husband!!  Girl you are powerless and that is our reason and command to Let go and Let God...You are well informed on this and have passed it to many others...practice, practice, practice even in this moment.  In return pray for us who pray for you along with your mate.  I will add that I pray he will also let go and let God and then the stress will diminish.

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Just rest for now and let the doctors do the necessary things

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Sending you prayers, love and support!

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((((Ness)))

Prayers and support for you  both are on the way.  Please be gentle with yourself and rest.  Yhe destruction of this disease runs very  deep. 

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Ness, sorry to hear about your husband. I hope the tests will tell him something and he will be able to get a good grip on his return to health. 

I feel your pain Ness, lifting you up in prayer and possitive thoughts. 

Please remember the 3 C's.....

Your friend Oldergal. 



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Sending prayers love and support, big big hugs p

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Ness my heart hurts for you both. Do you have friends or family to be around you?

Well as you sit and wait and are concerned I sure am there with you in spirit. Wish I could come sit with you!

Please let us know what is going on or even just write to us about anything. You are not alone in your heart.

lotsa love honey,debilyn



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Thank you all for your good wishes and prayers.

Right now I am powerless, and furious, over other people places & things.

My husband was given the option of staying in & having electric shock therapy on his heart, or coming home on adjusted medication with the option of shock treatment in 6 weeks time.

He hated the hospital & is now on his way home.

The meds don't work..... he knows they don't work.....denial denial denial

I feel how I used to feel in dealing with my A son......

I have to let it go, there are higher powers than me at work, outcome unknown.

I must focus on myself. Detach.

But right now Im furious, Im reacting.

The outcome is not the one I wanted.....

I have 2 hours before he gets home to re-arrange my furious face into one of love, care & concern. 2 hours is no way long enough......grrrrrrrrrrrr. 

I have to remember to say what I mean mean what I say and not say it mean. Huh!!

Apologies for the vent

((((((Ness)))))

 



-- Edited by Ness on Thursday 7th of June 2012 12:32:55 PM

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Dear Ness

Be gentle with yourself and take a really, really  big deep breath

At times being Powerless is really, really hard.  Remember to live in the day and in the moment.  HP will give you the serenity , courage and wisdom to face today and the future.

Prayers for a positive outcome for the Meds. 



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(((Ness)))  I wish life was easy....  It is all about choices.  When they make a choice, all any of us can do, is to respect it. Even if in our hearts, we feel it is a bad decision.  Sending you hope and peace.



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No apologies for the vent....

I know this is a tough road for you. 

Thinking of you, my support and prayers are with you. Please hang in there. 

Have all your literature and Al Anon books close by. 

Deep breathing and meditation will help. Even though you are in the middle of a tough spot, I hope you have time for yourself, please take good care of yourself.

Oldergal 



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