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I was working with a new client today, when she brings up her alcoholic son in law. [insert typical story... DUI/fines ect..] and I replied "to each his own" she looks me dead in the eye and puts down her lunch, straight faced and says "at 50 years old, don't you think he'd cut it out?" [did this comment remind anyone of the story in the bb about the jay-walker? Cause this is immediately what I thought of and I almost died trying not to crack a smile] I simply told her there are free programs out there to help problem drinkers and their families. ... I wanted to use words or phrases that may make it obvious that I have access to recovery info if she wanted it, with out actually saying it. I wasn't sure if she was simply venting or asking help. .... I have posted this elsewhere, but I have a seperate thought more appropriate for this side of things. When I said that, I just figured that he didn't want to stop, but that the family should have some support. If you played the client and a [practical] stranger said this to you, what would your response / thought have been?
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We will change when the pain of where we are exceeds the fear of where were going
I tell people about Al-anon every chance I get without trying to force it on anyone, just casually say there is Al-anon to help you deal with that and then I change the topic. I have calmed down with my advicish ways and now only offer info to people who bring up dealing with A's and having issues or straight out ask my advice and I still keep it short like maybe you could try Al-anon. Sending you love and support!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
I was told by a total stranger about AlAnon... he was my hubby's sentencing officer for a DUI. He told me it would be helpful for me and I could look it up in the telephone book (I know how old fashioned that is, but this was 12 yrs. ago). I have been going ever since, and I am grateful to him for letting me know.
