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Thank you all for encouraging me to go to a meeting. I went tonight...hungry, overwhelmed, weepy and tired. Everyone was so nice. They all greeted me, and I felt almost like I wasnt even there if that makes sense. My friends and family are all having cook outs, and Im at an al anon meeting. Ha. But, one lady hugged me at the end and held me while ai.cried, and ai just took it and surrendered to it because I needed it so bad. Im very grateful for that hug, and always will be. I did share as best as I could, and whwn I said that I didnt leave him because I hate him, I left because I love him...everyone just supported.me in that moment and I never thought anyone would. I still feel vert fragile and thin, but Im glad I went. Thank you very much for your support. Its so surprising to me to get such love from strangers instead of my loved ones, but Im grateful to the Universe for not leaving me totally stranded.
I am so glad you made it and yes no one has love and understanding for us like other Al-anoners. HP never leaves us totally stranded if we just look around. Keep coming back! Sending you love and support on your journey!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
How wonderful for that experience. Very moving and touching what you said about leaving because you love him. Don't forget to add that you also left because you love yourself. Take care.
Awesome CDK....You got what we also got and then learned how to give as freely as we received it...Unconditional love and acceptance...Everyone here and there is and has been you one time or another. You got what we wanted ourselves and hope you keep coming back for more and the opportunity to give it away yourself. ((((hugs))))
Thank you. Im reading the literature and I see how the roles how I played did not help him. In my reading of codependency books, I was beginning to see that I had a role in the misery of our lives. I read a simple quote recently. "If you can do no good, at least do no harm." I feel that way about leaving. Im sure I have hurt him to leave, but I couldnt imagine hurting him for the rest of my life. I dont really know how to love myself really. But, yes, I loved myself.enouhj to get out. I hope I can grow that tiny little spark into something good. Thank you.
Thank you all for encouraging me to go to a meeting. I went tonight...hungry, overwhelmed, weepy and tired. Everyone was so nice. They all greeted me, and I felt almost like I wasnt even there if that makes sense. My friends and family are all having cook outs, and Im at an al anon meeting. Ha. But, one lady hugged me at the end and held me while ai.cried, and ai just took it and surrendered to it because I needed it so bad. Im very grateful for that hug, and always will be. I did share as best as I could, and whwn I said that I didnt leave him because I hate him, I left because I love him...everyone just supported.me in that moment and I never thought anyone would. I still feel vert fragile and thin, but Im glad I went. Thank you very much for your support. Its so surprising to me to get such love from strangers instead of my loved ones, but Im grateful to the Universe for not leaving me totally stranded.
I felt exactly as you described at my first meeting. I remember feeling like I wasn't really there. It took everything I had to keep it together. After about halfway through the meeting, I could finally get a breath in.
Feeling fragile & thin, I could not have said it better! I am so glad I found the strength to get to the first meeting. Funny, it was so hard to get to a place that was there to make it easier! Congratulations, you should be very proud of yourself! It takes a lot of courage to ask for help. I know, I had to do it too!
