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I am taking a break from work because if I didn't I'd start to get frustrated and then react with a lack of patience and anger. One of my soldering joints in a bathroom remodel job just won't seal so when I turn on the water....of course...IT LEAKS!!. So time out...get a Diet Pepsi and come to the board to get some ESH and perspective...read recovery and calm down so I don't make it worse. I can do that better than anything else if I just depend on myself alone and become my own sponsor. LOL and then I read...
"I have slowed down a LOT in reacting to situations and really focus on what is best for me. I do NOT have to answer any one situation right that second unless my children or myself is in danger. Different .. I can still take a breath and calm myself before acting. It is soooo much better to act on what I need to do vs react to what I THINK I need to do."
From Pushka in response to rara avis and the lessons come leaping back to me over and over...thousands of shares in my memory box that I can pick and choose from. She mentions DON'T REACT!!...a beautiful slogan hand made and designed by my elder sponsor now passed. Thank you God. WHEN IN DOUBT...DON'T!! another slogan from the same source. Many others fall in front of me to pick and choose from and then the one that has the greatest light of understanding to this enabling Al-Anon fellow..."When I stop, pause for 3 to 5 seconds after I am triggered into reaction...it is in those 3 seconds that I find God and the solution to my problem". I imagine that 3 seconds as a margin of mercy where I don't have to engage the fight and can arrive at peace.
Glad I came home and turned on the MIP box. Thanks "Pushka" saved me from a "Shoveka"...LOL get it?
Sooo right!! I am not powerless over the process so I knew what to do and it wasn't coming out as the consequence said it had in the past. After I posted I went back...left my anxiety and fear and resentments and all that other negative energy and did the process again. It's done and now I can continue on the rest of the puzzle. Magical process leading to miracles. Progress not perfection. (((hugs)))
HA HA .. Pushka/Shoveka .. it's funny you mentioned the "leaking" that's why I keep coming back :)
Hugs Jerry, I'm glad your leaky joints are all better! :)
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Step back, take a breath, put it down and walk away for a moment and sometimes just a moment is all we need to be able to forge ahead, figure out how to fix and move on to the next problem.
Today my teen and I were just on time to see the movie Battleship until..... mother nature hit her and detoured us to the nearest store - she was mad, ranting and upset. It is what it is - just go get what you need and we'll move on. We didn't have to wait in line for popcorn, and we missed a few previews (one's we'd already seen anyway!) but we got our favorite seats (because everyone else prefers the back rows) and it was a good movie - good special effects on the big screen, great music too!
I find myself using "it is what it is" a lot now; for so many situations it is the perfect attitude to take. Pushka/Shoveka will probably cause me to smile in some future inappropriate situation - thanks!
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
