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BirdGirl


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Hi, new to this. I appreciate your patience. Living with an Alcoholic boyfriend of five years. I have stage IV breast cancer and am 42 years old. Right now I am cancer free. Found out today I need surgery within the next few weeks...major abdominal surgery. AB was there physically through every chemo and surgery in the past. He also helped himself to the pharmacy of pain killers I had during treatment. He has been to rehab twice in the last year, checking himself out after four or five days. Tonight, after meeting with the oncologist, he got plastered. I don't know if I can go through this anymore. We have no family here....it is just us. I just don't know what to do...... Thanks.

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BirdGirl


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By the way, he drinks every night...at least a half pint of VO.

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Bargee


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BirdGirl,

Welcome to MIP, it sounds like you need support right now.
This is a great place to be (the boards I mean).
I wish you all the best for your surgery.
Keep coming back here.
I've only been here for a month, but already I feel less alone.


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You have to accept whatever comes and the only important thing is that you meet it with courage and with the best that you have to give.
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Jerry F


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Aloha BirdGirl and welcome also to the MIP board.  Here's a suggestion; go to the white pages of your local telephone book and look up the hotline number for Al-Anon and then call to find out when and where we meet together in your area.  See if there is a phone number to a live person you can talk to in the meantime cause you need someone in your corner along with us at this time.  Keep coming back.  You are not alone and will surely hear your own story told by some others after a while.  (((hugs))) smile



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Tracy


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Hi,

My ABf is there for me best he can be but he is ill.

They say in al anon it is like going to the hardware store for bread.  when they get scared they drink it does not mean he does not care.  When I have problems I try and find people who can support me , be there for me.  Al anon has been a god send in times I have really needed a hug or a friendly voice on the end of the phone.  I reach out one person can not meet our needs especially a sick one.

 

hugs tracy xxx

 



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BirdGirl


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Thank you all.

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orchidlover


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I am so glad you are here and willing to reach out to get help. Al anon can certainly help you in many many ways. First by learning to detach, secondly by getting lots of support and thirdly by looking at lots of things about ourselves.  Within al anon I can get to healing.

You deserve to be happy, you deserve to feel cared about and loved.

I'm so sorry your health is in such a precarious state.  I well understand what effort it takes to deal with something like that.  Welcome

Marese.



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