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rara avis


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Hi everybody,

 Tomorrow is my restraining order court hearing, I think I'm handling things pretty well but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't nervous. The ex RA will be there and fighting for his side of things. He's broken the stay away order [ hence going for the restraining ] but since he hasn't LITERALLY threatened harm, "just" acted like a creepy stalker, I'm not sure how it will turn out. I am praying the restraining order passes as it has been made clear that he will not follow a stay-away. 

 He has already filed a response, but it has not been served to my attorney's office. We don't know what his defense will be, but I'm girding myself to be called crazy, hysterical, lying, etc...Ugh. I am so tired of his mind games and wish he would just go away. Some of my neighbors and community seem to think that I am the loony one who is doing harm to my poor ex. He's like a poison cloud that spreads everywhere! 

 Rant off! Thanks so much for being supportive. I have a friend who will go with me tomorrow, but I REALLy appreciate you guys listening to this, you get it. 

 hugs and bless you all!

rara avis



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wishing you the best turn out possible !



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Hugs, please post an update when you get done with court!!

Hugs P :)

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Hey ignore others bolony! You do what you feel you need to. They have no idea how you feel.

There are stalking laws too he could possibly be charged with. NO contact means no contact!

I am proud of you for sticking up for yourself. Great program progress!

I had to file against my sil who is a meth addict to get her to leave me alone. She fought it too. Was actually comical what she said.

Just him not following the stay away order is showing he is being threatening and not following the judgement already put into place!

Please let us know how it goes or went. Not sure when you posted this.

You are in my thoughts for sure! love,debilyn



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Hugs to you, hoping you get the best outcome possible!! You deserve sanity.

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RESULT: Long story short, sans extra details, I was expecting a continuum - 2 weeks until the hearing - [ ex RA claimed he didn't leave the giant tv with my name spray painted on it on my street! Because, clearly, there are VAST numbers of people who would do that. So the next step was getting his fingerprints and prove he was lying ] Anyhoo, instead of a continuum, the judge, same one who granted the stay away order, suggested we go ahead with the hearing. Ex RA didn't show up, likely thinking he didn't need to this time....though I wasn't sure and was expectin him to walk in the door any minute. The judge swore me in, then instantly granted the maximum strength restraining order. 500 yards, 5 years.

I had to pick up my jaw off the floor. It was incredibly validating. This judge is the battle-hardened seen-it-all variety.

Then I assumed my ex would be served early next week. However, this MORNING I found out that he was served yesterday, the afternoon of the trail. I figured my ex will be very angry, so for safety sake I packed a bunch of stuff, the dog, and drove out of town. Currently in a friend's house.

My lawyer and I are pretty certain he will appeal, so I won't assume peacefulness forever. However I'm really looking forward to coming down off this unwanted adrenaline rush. I'm imagining a life where I can just work, make art, fix up my little house, and play outside. Peace. Just peace.

THANK you again, everyone! xo
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Maybe he won't appeal, after all if he has no money it's kind of hard to keep going to court.

I'm so glad this has resolved itself some what and if he breaks the restraining order .. he goes to jail that is a good thing.

Hugs P :)

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