yesterday our extended family celebrated mothers day at my moms.  loud fight between AS and bipolar daughter.  my mother was yelling at me to "do something about her!" (AS was involved in this conversation)  i said to my mother, "i cannot fix her mental illness any more than i can fix his alcoholism.  i want everyone to stop coming to me to fix it!"  

daughter left the gathering.  she said to me later, "thanks for sticking up for me mom."  i told her, "i will not get involved with any issues between you and your brother.  it has nothing to do with me."

i am usually the peacemaker of the family.  it felt good to set MY boundaries.