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After last night when I didn't handle myself well with detachment and trying to control over when I knew he had been drinking way more than is under control.. I spend the day reading and being on here preparing myself for what might come.
I have to say we as a family had a wonderful night. No alcohol involved. Watched our son play well in ball game. I cooked shrimp and broccoli and we watched a movie. Wonderful non eventful night.
Tonight I got to be with the man I fell in love with.
I'm laying in bed thinking how nice it is taking one day at a time so last nights issue didn't cloud up today and whatever comes tomorrow worries didn't mess up our evening.
Good night all. May peace and calm fill your hearts an the hearts of your families
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..."expecting the world to treat you fairly because your a good person, is like expecting a bull to not attack you because your a vegetarian "
Glad you had a good day today. As I was reading your post, an al-anon saying came to mind, "a good outcome is just as likely to happen in any given situation, than a bad one." It just goes to show that when we "project" what may or may not happen we waste so much energy that could be put to better use. It looks like you did a good job of focusing on the positive. Watching the ball game, enjoying dinner and a movie! Fun times!
There is another thing I would like you to remember on this evening, as well as the ones where the "drinking is way more than is under control"... This Too Shall Pass. When we're having a really good day ... This too shall pass. When we're having a really bad day... This too shall pass. Life is change and we can not escape that. That's why it's called life. It's what we do with it and our choices that make the diffence.
Overcome
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I can Overcome all things through my HP who strengthens me.
This reminded of a time before arriving at al-anon. We were invited to a house warming party for some friends. No doubt my husband would've been plastered and I was really dreading it.
When the day came for the fellow to return home to start moving, they found his wife lying on the kitchen floor. She had died that morning after having the hpv vaccination. The doctor had given it to her even though she was sick with the flue. She was normally a healthy vibrant young woman at the age of around 22. Her 2 sons will never really know her, the youngest was only 1 at the time.
Boy did I feel guilty for dreading the party. I would rather have been going to a celebration then to her funeral.
