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Yesterday,I allowed myself to get involved in the drama at my a/a's daughters house. But, only for a moment, thank God for sponsors. My sponsor pointed out she is using everything she knows to push my buttons. She suggested to not even listen to what is going on at her house and to say to whoever is bringing the news that I can't afford to lose my peace and serenity and I'm praying for them and I trust them to work it out.
I'm getting better, I can remember a short time ago, I would be worried, obsessing and stinking thinking all over the place by now. Today, I'm calm, at peace and getting ready to go out to lunch with some friends, even though my daughter got pretty ugly and defensive to me before I ended the phone call, I won't say conversation because it's one way, her loud defensive blaming others.
I can't help but to feel sorry for my grandkids having an a/a for a mother. I try to give them as much support as I can, thank God my 7 y.o. granddaughter is staying with her dad. Hoping and praying my 17y.o. will finish high school.
Pray for us all!
With love!
Gettingitright!
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Just go a step at a time, one day at a time. And you'll find a rich, thankful life you never thought you could afford.--A Rogers
Other people's drama is so hard not to get sucked into .. I swear if I hear my AH say what a simple man he is based upon his current situation .. I will probably keel over from laughing .. it is truly laughable .. it's his stuff and I don't need to own it or point it out.
Thanks for the reminder that other people's stuff is just that! THEIRS!!
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Thank you all for your support, I shared with my long time friends that I had lunch with, they live out of town, that my daughter is struggling with issues of drug and alcohol addictions, I also shared that her 7 y.o. daughter lives with her father 4hrs away.
In the past, I told them she was "doing well" when they asked about her. Our 2 kids were friends when they were kids, her daughter went to college, has a great job and family, her son is doing well, he was on drugs for awhile, when he was younger, but is now married, has a good job and family.
I couldn't help but compare our kids and feel badly about mine. I feel relieved now that I told them. I think I will be more open about it with other friends in the future, I'm not proud of it, but it is a disease.
I called my grandson and he is back home, I'm encouraging him to "hang in there" and finish high school, at least, so far, I've been unseccessful in getting him to get in recovery with ala-teen.
Gettingitright!
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Just go a step at a time, one day at a time. And you'll find a rich, thankful life you never thought you could afford.--A Rogers
