(((Katfshh)))...Wow what a journey including having an agent of HP there to serve you with faith and trust in HP practice. 

Yeppers this reads exactly like an alcoholism story...exactly and so there is no need to react to it.  You done good...very good for your part and HP was (is) with you and everyone else.

Coming here to family and going to a meeting (family) is solid self support.  Sharing this event with us and others is giving recovery away to those who need it.  I need it because it affirms what I need to keep practicing...the trust and the faith and the awareness that "God Is" where we aren't.   I had some of my event yesterday which included a phone call to an attorney who supposed to be in recovery.  When the call was done.  The call was my part in the matter; I had to ask my Higher Power..."What the hell was that"?  and then say "Okay you got it back...all of it". 

The self centeredness of this disease or self centeredness alone is just mind boggling.

On a hopeful note I heard on the business news yesterday that Coors earning were flat...not going up...now maybe the entire liquor industry alcohol will "go flat"....LOL...just a bit of Hawaiian sarcasm and my own spite.  

Grateful for your post...(((((hugs)))))

Thanks! Yes, that statement that we would find his son by 4 o'clock made me giggle, but when it happend, and so closely to that time it was solid proof to me that everything will be OK. I still find myself trying to convince AF to stop drinking, and then he would say something a little nasty to me and I realized that I need to shut up. So, I'm doing ok. I'm trying not to threaten or give advice or anything. I'm just here. Although, he is trying to get me to beg him to stay. He keeps talking about his plan to leave and head south. Whatever...Go! That's what I want to say. But, I am not. (I don't want him to go, I want him to get sober!But, trying to bite my tongue on that one.) Oh he has a Wed night men's meeting that he goes to every wed night. Except he didn't go last Wed, because he was drinking. So, I asked him if he going tonight. He said, "Hum..that would be interesting." Oh, and he is now drinking my wine! He hates wine. And it's mine for me and if I ever have a guest over that I can offer wine. But, now he is drinking my good Cabernet right out of the bottle. Ick. I am just trying to stay busy and focus any attention away from him. It is hard though! It is so hard not to get sucked in. When I walk to another room he says, "Come here, come sit by me."

 

Use the tape if necessary and unconditional acceptance of both yourself and himself.  You're doing fine...you didn't get tricked because it is only a reminder of the need to practice something different which works out better for your mind, body, spirit and emotions.  You quit the game and are not playing in it.  You can leave the stadium and him on the field with your bottle of wine.   LOL that reminded me of one of my favorite aunts who found my special hidden (and not too well) bottle of "Pinch" one Christmas.  She was too drunk and wobbly and dropped the bottle on the floor where it broke all over the place.  She was sooo imbarassed and contrite and I was trying to hide that livid purple color under my face.  It would take 17 more years for me to discount alcohol in my own life...stop drinking and eventually go thru the doors of AA where I would become a double.   I owe the guiding light and permission to use everything available to gain and maintain my recovery to Al-Anon.

Keep on keeping on Kat.  ((((hugs))))

I don't see telling him to get sober as being a wrong thing, really, it is what you want him to do, maybe he'll get tired of hearing it and either do it, or leave, either way works better for you than having him sitting there drinking/drunk.