The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. See I know it. I also know how to do it.
I have a loving, caring wife who doesn't refrain from giving me suggestions about self care. A couple of weeks ago I blinded myself in my right eye. I wasn't wearing safety glasses and it happened and I knew what she would say...so I sucked it up...let her say it and healed. Yesterday I wasn't wearing safety glasses and blinded myself in my left eye (kinda balances things out huh?) and I knew what she was going to say when she got home. (How'd I know that cactus tree sap could be that toxic...okay hindsight justifications don't help). She got home and went into helpful mode and I got thru the night's pain and swelling and tearing and sinus leaking...It was much better and much much redder this AM. We had breakfast and my wife went into the safety glasses alerts and compresses and that stuff and I went into sarcasm...not nasty sarcasm...just your everyday "blow it off" sarcasm and God put a pin in my humility nerve center just before going to my morning home group. The reading was on humility and the solution for what I had done rose up highly contrasted and firmly fixed in my spirit. I got home just before she was leaving to spend some time with a sponsee and made my amends. She didn't gloat (I watched and she didn't even test it out). "Thank you for the amends" she said and was gone after a peck on the lips. She let me off the hook I had put myself on and was off to do her day.
What a baby I was...okay enough gotta go and change my diaper and see if my pants will still fit.
None of us is perfect Jerry. I revert back to "King Baby" in a hot second and only realize it afterwards. I'm guessing you are a little quicker to realize it since you have longer in recovery. Sometimes it takes me a couple of days to do a turn around like that. In circumstances like you describe it used to be that I would never even see the need to make an amends. I would figure "Im the one that got hurt!!" what do I need to make amend to someone else for!!?? In other words - all about me. It's good that we can pause and realize it's not all about us now. Thanks for the reminder.
She sounds like a very understanding woman. It is always so nice to be able to admit you were in the wrong without having the fear of being belittled or reprimanded. I hope your eyes are ok!
It probably would have been more 'fun' if a dragonfly emblazoned your eyeballs with a poke as a reminder to protect them...at least that way you could blame the attack-fly on me. ROFL
Hugs my pineapple friend, I hope your eyes are ok and wonder if you might need a china closet banishment for a year to protect yourself from the evil world doings that have met you head (or eyeball) on, as of late.
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...He compared his weathered hand to mine and said, ... GROWTH OF THE MIND AND HEART are the best offers you can give.my Grandfather (Keeper of Stories), to me
