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That was a big step. You should be very proud of your actions and your reactions.
Alanon has taught me to take the actions and then let go of the result. You lived by your priniples and packed up his things and called. The response you received was not as friendly as you would have liked but it did set the stage for you to be free of the clothing and the man.
Continue to take good care of yourself, Warm baths, walks outside, good food ,rest . posting here and prayer.
This will pass.
-- Edited by hotrod on Saturday 28th of April 2012 08:05:26 AM
my instant message my a/d b/f boss and told him that i had all the rest of his clothes packed up and put in bags for him to get,in a nice kind way and his boss repied back with that to p[ut them outside on the porch and he would come and get them and he had to also add that me and my a/d bf did not ned to contact each other ever again and that or that in other words it was completly over with us and we are to never contact ,,,,who is he to be saying alll that unless my a/b told him to say that ,he prolly did i dunno ,his boss rols in high money and comes from wealth but is also a marijuana addict,but any way that had to hurt me to ,i just said back your welcome and left it at that i sure didnt need all that mud throwed at me a simple we will come by sat.morning would been sufficient enough instead of all the hurtful words at me ive said nothing out of the way to neither him or his boss,what happened to niceness,??i have no plans of ever getting back into thatsit. agin but a nice way of going about it would have been more better and matured way of acting about it,his boss can have him,i just wonder how long he will be on my f/b before he has me deleted ,this is still fresh wounds for me,and their poured a lil salt into it this morning.oh well ill survive,,,,this tooo will pass and besides i have all of you here to talk to,and i know he has nobody but himserlf and his boss and his bosses stepson to talk to.and theirs drinking and drugs reaking there.hugs agin love you all for listening to my cries agin....silent
Getting them Sober is a really good resource to have around an alcoholic. Expecting someone who is addicted to be tactful is pretty hard. I know my expectations were way way off.
I am proud of you that you were able to keep a zipper on your mouth and just let the words roll off your back. You did the right thing and this is the start of a new life for you. You are not alone. We are all right here. Take care of yourself. You are in charge of you.
