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Anniepie1976


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So, basically I used to attend in my 20's and at that time I was able to have a home group.  I just started going again as a 35 yr old realizing I need this program and that it's not like riding a bike again.  It's more like I didn't ride long enough or I fell off so to speak.  So I was at my 2nd group recently and during that group I mentioned I have returned to the program but I am not able to have a home group because of my varying work hours in the evening and no home with th kids during the day.  I figured I could pick up different meetings each week depending on my weekly schedule and my Higher Power will guide me through the rest including finding a sponsor.  Am I wrong in my thinking?  I had been pulled aside by someone my 2nd meeting that made me a bit uncomfortable.  He was telling me I "need" to have a home group and rearrange my schedule basically.  I don't know.  I know I need the program to get myself well but in the times we are in people can all pick up the same meeting the same night every week?  I can't be the only one.  Anyways, would love some input.  I felt defensive and just wasn't ready for it when this guy approached me.  Maybe I should avoid that location all together.  lol



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Choose a program that works for you. If it means attending different meetings, then go.

When I attend the same meeting (a "home meeting"), I get an opportunity to grow closer to the people I see each week. When I attend different meetings, I learn new things from a new perspective. Since I have expanded my program and am adding more meetings to my life, I am finding that I get to see people from one meeting in another meeting. It has been fun to get to know more people in the "recovery community."

My suggestion would be to ask in a meeting if anyone has other meetings they like to attend. Most "old timers" have their favorites and will offer ideas.

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Aloha Annie and I'm under the VVT suggestion also.  I'm a double with home groups on both sides of the hallway.  Home groups have lots of benefits and familiarity is just one of them...I get balance from the "usual" family and I love the unexpected variety from outside meetings also.  I do service in my home group too - however - getting a home group is a "suggestion" and not a have to.  People will tell you "have tos" because it is important to them.  You get to design your own needs on a daily basis.   The must for me is to go and keep coming back cause if I don't I get consequences I have never ever liked. 

Good for you finding the doors of the Family Groups again.  Keep coming back here also.  (((((hugs))))) smile 



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II show up to different meetings, it is your recovery to work into your life and schedule. People who should on you are trying to be helpful, but what works for one doesn't necessarily work for all. Glad you are back to Al-anon and posting here at MIP! Sending you love and support!

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Hi,this is YOUR program of recovery. good for you for figuring out what works best for you. We are adults even when we are new again in Al Anon, part of our recovery is standing up for ourselves.

Remember everyone is on their own path and do not mean any harm, that is where the take what you want and leave the rest comes in.

I sadly could not go to face to face meetings long for a couple reasons. Have been at MIP soooo many years. Its here and reading etc that has me on a very strong program. When I say here, I mean the people who grace us with sharing their esh, and reminding of our steps etc.

Good for you for getting back in there! You do however HAVE to come here! lol kidding, but we would love to have you keep coming.

Love,debilyn



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abbyal


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No I dont think its really that important right way , you go when and where you can , its only important that you go .  A home group will fall into place eventually ..  A home group to me is where we learn to do service work and requires commitment , we can help at all meetings setting up chairs , making coffee helping with clean up its all service work to me .. easy does it   Louise



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tiredtonite


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You'll likely go to some meeting places more than others due to your schedule.  Eventually, you'll find you may like one group a little more than the others. That's how I recognized my "home group."  I can honestly say I have that feeling about a number of alanon groups today that I've attended over the years.  I can show up when I can and be welcomed home.  I feel I can call members in these groups when I can't make a meeting.  There really are no "have to's" in this program.  You'll do what works for you and recover just the same as anyone else if you have the willingness to work recovery.  Hugs and welcome.  TT



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You do what you need to do it's more important to have a program of recovery than split hairs over if you need to go to a specific meeting every single week.

Hugs P :)

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I think I need a stamp to say "what Jerry said"  :)

 

Great feedback from everyone on here - hope it all helps your recovery

 

Tom



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