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Aloha MIP Ohana (MIP Family)...last time I started this there was a power outage so I didn't have enough or Higher Power to complete it...LOL (and we pay the highest per KWH in the entire world...Go figure) anyhow I had to go for my Al-Anon tools and elder sponsors lessons this morning because I had to deal with a renter (manage some) who wasn't going to pay and was quitting the agreement. They supposedly have rental properties of their own back from where them come from so I wasn't having to teach alot just working with their awarenesses. Didn't matter a ton because inspite of that they decided to abandon the property...leave the keys in the house and all kinds of stuff in the garage plus damages. I never had a renter like this and then as one person said...there is always a first time. While I was inspecting and getting stuff sorted for the dump and garage sales or whatever a young man who wasn't on the lease agreement came by and started collecting "stuff". Long story short I went for the Al-Anon assets+ file and called 911 cause "EASY DOES IT". I'm a reasonable and workable person and I don't just let anyone unknown to me do stuff. Well that caught the phone of the previous renter who abandoned and she showed up and then the police and then the "collector". Last time I dealt with the Police it was assaulted...this time I was reminded that they are often not very supportive and then I was using them to support my serenity not the other persons. Had I collected the stuff before the kid came I would have yard sold it to pay for rents not paid and then that didn't happen so the owner stands the gaff cause that's their risk. My elder sponsors taught me to find and use whatever I could to gain and maintain my serenity...two cops can help and I am now down to not having to deal with the trash and left in equipment just the cleaning and repairing work. The renters will most likely have to go thru a "claims for rents due" process and that's their process. I empathize with anyone who claims hardship and don't empathize with those who lie, cheat and steal when they have the option, availability and experience not to. The tools and assets+ help me to do the best I can with what I have and be responsible for my client and others. My wife and I will be short some income this month but not as much sanity or serenity.
This for me is practicing the principles of the program in some of my affairs.
Okay no power outage this time...sending it. (((((hugs)))))
(((Jerry))), I've been pleasantly surprised at how this program works for me in all areas of my life, not just in dealing with my A. Thanks for sharing, you are always an inspiration.
Hugs Jerry!! Sending you love and support!! Hugs P :) It's a crazy journey we are all on isn't it?
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Jerry at dinner time after my little wobble, the manager came in the kitchen to ask for a dinner, we have strict rule that any food eaten has to be put in our honesty book, some people do some people don't, I was last in and this patternt was long established before I arrived, but still i feel the managers give us the bullets and exspect us to fire them, the only way I have been able to deal with this, is by just trying to keep my side of the street clean, they know who does and who doesn't but the sad thing is they darn't tell them either or rock the boat so they set one against the other, I have had to learn to man up here and I find that people respond much better when treated with respect, there is a knack to saying what you mean without saying it mean, i see hurt people hurting people quite clearly now, I know because I did it.
But I digress, vicky one of the younger members of staff was just eating a big wodge of cheesecake when the manager came in, I thought ot owah, luckily she saw her as she had picked her own dinner up, my heart was pounding and then vicky said to her, do you want me to put you in the honesty, pheweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, and vicky never even knew what had kicked off earlier, these little coping strategies are HUGE, they have turned my frown x thankyou Hp and jerryf, your one and the samex
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x thankyou Hp and jerryf, your one and the samex