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My AH just came home wasted after playing golf all day. Normally, there would have been a big blow out, but I'm keeping my cool and being genuinely polite. I think my new calm and resolve to avoid conflict is starting to unnerve him. I think he thinks I'm up to something. Lol. It's kind of funny in a way. I just refuse to let him have any more of my serenity.
Sooo you are up to something!! Yay. Funny how when I stopped participating with my alcoholic/addict wife's part in the disease she wigged out. I stopped doing what didn't work and that worked for me which is what recovery is all about. It's not like you don't already know how to make a mountain out of a molehill for yourself. Keep working it and he'll "get it". In support. (((((hugs)))))
Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Thank you all so much! I've learned a lot from reading these boards, and I am so grateful for the support here. Last night ended quietly. He tried to pick a fight with me a couple of times, and I just didn't choose to join in. I got him some dinner and went to bed and he passed out before he could finish eating. I didn't say a word about it this morning. I would have never thought I could find this kind of peace while he is still drinking, but when my health started being affected by the stress of worrying about him and trying to change him, I knew I had to do something, and since I choose not to leave him at this point I finally realized I had to let go and let God.
I'm grateful my kids didn't have to listen to another fight last night and I'm grateful I didn't have to become an emotional wreck.
Good job! We don't have to attend every fight we are invited to!
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Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible be found in us. -from Pema Chödron's When Things Fall Apart
