The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
And not because I had a great day, in fact it was pretty complicated. I was supposed to fly home today. I've been crashing at my brothers since leaving my ABF and I was supposed to fly out of the country back to my parents home. Well the thing is I have two dogs and I'm taking them with me. I thought I had all their veterinary papers in order etc. I had called and checked ahead of time and someone over the phone had told me that I was good to go.
Well surprise! I get to the counter and am told a whole bunch of different information than what I had recieved over the phone. The supervising lady was downright condescending in addition to being just over all extremely unhelpful.
I took several very deep breaths and recited the serenity prayer a dozen times silently to myself.
I kept it together, didn't lose my cool. Tried to get the issue resolved but was unable to. So my and my dogs are couch crashing for a bit longer.
When I get back to my brother's, the ex starts texting me, inviting me to crazytown for a trip down relapse lane. And I rose above. I didn't take the bait. I didn't get emotional, I didn't fight.
I was able to accept my powerlessness over everything but myself. And that felt so good! SO GOOD!! I kept my emotions and attitude in check and prayed to my HP who definitley had my back today.
Even though on the surface, nothing was going the way it "should" and everything was going haywire. I felt an amazing amount of peace and acceptance today. And for this I am grateful.
Coming to this board and reading all the shares here have given me a lot of hope, strength and encouragement. Thank god for this program and thank god for you all.
__________________
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am for myself only, what am I? If not now, when?"
"Be happy for this moment, this moment is your life."
It sounds as if you were surrounded by crazy town, at the airport, on the telephone and text messaging . You used your program to "rise above ". How powerful and awesome is that!!
Peach, Way to go! It sounds like a stressful day and it sounds like you handled it perfectly! You're doing great. When I was going to bring my dog with me to Guatemala I got conflicting answers regarding the papers, examinations, certificates, etc. that I would need. I did my best to jump through all the hoops, but I too had to delay my departure (I was driving) because I hadn't received a certain paper back from the Guatemalan consulate. When I drove through the borders at Mexico and again at Guatemala, my dog was plainly visible in the back seat. No one asked a thing about him or wanted to see any kind of papers for him!!! Anyway, I hope you're able to get everything straightened out soon for your trip.
Peachy!! way to go!! Today happened just the way your HP planned it for you...before you left you had another test to take and you took it and got it right. Sounds like your HP was testing..."Do you still trust me and trust your program"? and you showed him/her/it that you do and are ready to move on. You get and A+ in Awareness, Acceptance and Action class. It doesn't get much stronger than that. Thanks for passing it on!! ((((hugs))))
What I have found useful with the now ex A is when he is bombarding me with messages is to turn the phone to airplane mode. Then none of the texts or calls go through. I have found this stops the bombardment really fast.
I've been there done that with leaving a ex A who is in anger mode, pets in tow. I feel for you. I'm 5 years out and they are the maintstay of my life and also a huge commitment. I am so impressed you are willing to go to such lengths for their welfare.
