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he didnt cheat on me i dont beleive to get this desease ,he got it while were were broke up for almost a year he had hooked up with a girl that like to drink hard liquar,and was with her for 2 or 3 mths,then i came and soon as he saw me me like he said he knew it was over between him and her,for he had gotten to the point he couldnt stand her .here i am talking of him but still know in back of my head that i got to free myself completely from him for theres noway i can ever marry him and how he would love for meto marry him and there id be saying i do to all his addictions too and his extreme jealousy of me and id be loseing alot he would only be gaining for he has nothing as for car,home etc just clothes on his back and he lives out of a garbage bag that he totes from place to place.or drags around with him,how can i be so in love with someone thats only used me and disrespected my car and home for drinking and running after his narcatics,whereever he can find them,no he has never cheated on me just when ive had to kick him to the curb ,he would find someone usually someone he dont want to keep around ,lol poor guy he is talented though and ive always called him the master mind ,he can figure out anything from fixxing a stove that nobody else could even think could be fixxed to gr8t trim carpenter and painter,etc but his specialty is carpentry he can do anything with his hands and yes he spent 9 yrs off and on in prison for drug charges.he is running right now from probation he just dropped it so now his boss is wanting him to just save the money up or they will hit a good lick and just go pay it all off,lol his boss he will call his daddy,cause he takes up for him and will bail him out of everything he has got power and money and children and a wife that he verbally abuses there ,my a/d b/f has to get out of there at times cause everything gets on his nervesso bad and i beleive by comeing here it was his getting away from it all and spending time with me.i know i can pull away from this...esh and more esh
We need to practice all that we read and hear. Please try: keeping the focus on yourself,living one day at a time, praying and trusting that your Higher Power to guide your next moment.
I agree this is indeed a dreadful disease. It is progressive and we are powerless over it.
Please remember you need recovery from living with this illness. He will drink, use or do anything to take care of the compulsion
Coming here is a big step. Attending on line meetings, reading the literature and actually using the tools are essential
al-anon has saved my life. My advice to you is to get to al-anon meetings as much as you would like.. keep an open mind, let people in, accept hugs and loves and keep coming back. he will drink or not or use or not.. what will YOU do?
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Michelle!
No one can take away your peace of mind unless you let them.
Al-anon has also saved my life. Going to meetings gave me the strength to leave my addicted ex boyfriend. Coming to this board and sharing and opening my heart, mind and soul to this program, the people in it, and my higher power has given me the tools to get through each day. I have a new found appreciation for everything in my life. I have gratitude and sanity, peace and serenity. Even on the dark days, especially on the dark days, I come here, I read the literature, I take care of ME. Some days its all I can do to get out of bed and put one foot in front of the other. The baggage and burden of years of co-dependant relationships, severe self neglect and my own addictions sometimes threaten to pull me down into the pits of despair. I am constantly reminding myself that I DO have a higher power and that my HP LOVES me, even when I am struggling to love myself, especially when I am struggling to love myself.
I know it is so easy to obsess over the addicts/alcoholics in our lives, but we always always have a choice to make. I know it is a difficult choice, but it is a choice nonetheless.
When I get overwhelmed, when I start spinning my self around with my thoughts, I just talk to my higher power. If I can't even find the words to do that, then I repeat the serenity prayer over and over like a broken record. When things get real bad, I just say three words: serenity, courage,wisdom over and over Until I can get out of my own head. It calms me down.
Please know that all that you need and want is already there inside you. Please know that there is hope and help and that this program really can show you the way, you just have to be willing to do the work.
It is not easy, and it is not quick, but it IS worth it, and so are you.
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"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? If I am for myself only, what am I? If not now, when?"
"Be happy for this moment, this moment is your life."
