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silent


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and him and me knowing he has given me this awful std that he isnt planning on getting rid of it ,this is really hard ,sex is over with between us and he is gonna just keep spreading it around to whoever when i actually call it off ,im picking up my med for it monday,no sex for 20 days and then have to go back in and be retested for it to make sure its all gone so theres noway i can have sex with him agin cause ill just get it back agin.i loved him so much, now this,im gonna tellhim monday when i pick up my meds that we cant have sex anymore cause im on the med and he aint gonna do nothing about getting rid of it,i know im strong enough to move on this time i pray for god to send me down his strength to be able to overcome this and my a/d b/f and never again live in sin agin this is the consequences of haveing sex outside of marriege.we all have our free agency as to choose good from bad and we suffer the consequences of bad and consequences of our good choices we make in life and i know this has been a bad choice of keeping him around for so many yrs.we werent meant for each other for sure,now the thing is to how am i gonna deal with him satuday and sun.he owes me money that ive got to get back from him and he just made a good amount off this job he just did ,i can either suffer with it or let him come here and get it back and all i have to put up with him is 1 and a half days.suggestions plz more esh needed i dont know what to telll him ive already told him i havent got the gas to come and get him but he keeps calling saying if i can just get to the next town over he will put gas in for me and he will buy his beer to while im there .i do need my money really bad ,ill be glad when this is over with and mon. is here and he is gone.,,,,hugs and more hugs ,,i just love this board soo much gr8t place to vent and solve our problems and to get good esh.i so ty for listening to me ,i do need yalls help and esh.....silent



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Silent in my experience right here at mip i have heard this one so many times. People put up with him or her becuz they owe them money.

Not once did they get the money. We cannot control what they do. He will give it to you or not. Does not matter if he is right next to you.

Yes it is horrible he gave you an std!!! I sure hope nothing else is there too.

I am so sad hon. But you sound strong and have a plan.

hugs,debilyn



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Stick to the plan. Take care of yourself.

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Hi Silent

You are not alone   Please pray on this and trust your inner voice.  Your HP will guide your actions and words.

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I am sorry you are dealing with this. Trust in yourself and be led by your HP. Sending you love and support!

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Silent!  You sound a lot smarter than I was 50+yrs ago when my womanizing exh gave me std's several times, at the time the Dr. treated me and acted as though all women got this disease from time to time.  ( I had P.I.D.  chlamydia and trichomoniasis) He also gave me meds for him to take, I remember once the woman he was messing around with, my so-called best friend, had it at the same time, we even compared meds. we were using ( I didn't know he was messing with her at the time).  I was with him for 17yrs. before I grew a "backbone" and got a divorce.  It sound like you already know you deserve better than this and hold yourself in high esteem.  It took me a long time to learn it and it was  a very painful lesson, but I learned they will only do as much as we allow them to do, and I learned it is my responsibility to take care of myself, not his.  They are to busy taking care of themselves by "any means necessary.  I pray for God's grace on your journey.

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-- Edited by Highlyfavored on Saturday 21st of April 2012 11:57:51 AM

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I hope you found some peace last night. Sending love and support, hugs p :)

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