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Peachy219


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Hi All,

I'm new(ish) to all this and I've finally decided to get off the roller coaster, take a giant leap of faith and do what I need to do to get healthy and sane.

I left my addict boyfriend (again) last week. I kept trying to find the magic formula of things I could say/do to help/save him. I kept trying to make myself believe THIS TIME would be different. THIS TIME he would make good on all the promises. But I know now, as I have always known deep down, that I was only lying to myself. I'm moving out of the country for several reasons; 1. My family lives out of the country and I have no where else to go and 2. I don't trust myself to stay away from him, or others like him yet.

I have a few concerns about this move. My family is very sick and full of addicts/alcoholics. In a way I feel like I'm about to jump out of the frying pan and back into the fire. But as I already said, at this point I have no other options.

That's why I'm here. I won't have access to regular meetings and I know that I need help to stay on track. I'm looking for a pen pal sponser to help me work the steps.

I'm moving through the first three steps right now. It's a daily effort. Things finally got so bad I welcomed the opportunity to give up the illusion of control. I've been telling myself "I got this, I got this" for so long I finally woke up one day and looked around at what I thought I had and realized it was all just one big mess. Everyday I wake up I talk to god and say thank you for another day, another opportunity to live as honestly and humbly as I can. Then I say the serenity prayer. Sometimes it's the only way I manage to make it through the day.

I have to believe it does get better. I'm mustering up the faith to believe the steps can show me the way. I just need someone to help me along.

If anyone out there is willing/able to be my online sponser, please let me know.

Thank you for listening.



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ilovedogs


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I'm still very new to Al Anon and I wouldn't be able to sponsor you but I can just say "Welcome", we're glad you're here. Keep coming back and asking questions. There's tons of support here online!

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Welcome! Thank you for sharing. Keep coming back :D

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Welcome Peachy

This is a we program and it is important to connect with others who are walking the same road.

We have meetings here in the chat room every day and the chart room is open 24/7.

Please keep posting here on this Board and also on the Step work Board We have been working the Steps on that Board every week. I suggest you read and post to both Boards and visit the chat. You should find the support you need.

The Step Board can be reached by http://stepwork.activeboard.com/forum.spark?forumID=42763Nw.

Keep coming back



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My family of origin is full of addcits and I had my share of going back and forth.

I understand fully the sense of helplessness.

For me leaving the ex a was a long involved job.  5 years ago I moved out.  I took another year to break all contact.

Don't set yourself up to fall.  Be kind to yourself. There are meetings here at all hours and there is a message board here.

Some people do indeed have virtual sponsors and it works for them.  I think at the same time having a  whole group of recovery friends support is essential you can build that here.

Put down the stick for a while.

Maresie.



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marcys1313


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Welcome!!!! I have been in al anon for 10 years. I would be love to help you get back onto your stable feet. I understand your problems with a family full of alcoholics, as i have the same problem. I have both parents. I have searched long and hard to have the mental capacities to deal with them and al anon has helped. It helps to have someone to talk to at all times, seeing as it is very hard to get to a regular meeting schedule!!!! If you need to talk, i can give you my email address and help anytime i can. Please remember there is a lot of help out there for you!!!

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