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pineapple


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I haven't been here lately as much as I have in the past, or as much as I would like to. I've been dog/house sitting for some friends who are out of the country. But I'm not comfortable leaving my home completely so I've been going back and forth in taxis with food, clothes, and dogs between friend's house in the next village, and my own home. Sometimes it's just too much to take the computer too. I'm at home today so have been catching up on the board. Things are the same here, A continues to drink. He was drunk at 8 this morning and is drunk now, at 5:30 in the evening. But being able to get away from it for a while has made a huge difference for me.  He lost his phone last week so when I'm away I don't have to talk to him. I can go a whole day without even thinking about him. I'm enjoying my time away and enjoying having another dog. I'm continuing to focus on and take care of myself. I have plans with a friend for tomorrow and will be returning to my ¨other¨ house the next day. I got an email from my friend in the U.S. this morning-she was supposed to return in June but says it now looks like July before she will be back.  Maybe by then there will be someone else who needs a house/pet sitter for a few months.



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Hi Pineapple!

I've been wondering how you've been.  I'm glad you "checked in."

You seem to enjoy your house sitting position.  Perhaps you can turn it into a full-time job!

Wishing you many pleasant days.  You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Enjoy your moments, despite what he is doing.  (He's in my prayers, too.)



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pineapple


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Gail, thank you for your thoughts and prayers. I really appreciate that. Yes, I AM enjoying having a place to go to that is free from the chaos and craziness of living with an A. The area that I live in has many foreigners, some of them go back to their home countries for weeks/months at a time. So maybe there will be other opportunities to house-sit in the future. I can't just walk away from this property that my A and I own together. And I can't afford to move somewhere else. But house-sitting may be the answer. Time will tell. In the meantime, I am loving having a place to myself. Well, me and the dogs, that is. :)

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(((((Pineapple)))))...praying the turning it over is moving in the best direction.   Doing the best you can with what you have.   smile



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Living with or without a A is crazy making. Way to take care of yourself. All the best.

Nancy

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Hugs Pineapple so glad you are using your time to take care of you!! It's amazing the clarity that comes with being out of the chaos for a bit. Glad you are enjoying your peace and quiet!!

Hugs P :)

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you sound good! Am so glad you are able to get away, you needed that badly.

It is too hard to watch them killing themselves,being sick and sad all the time. Breaks my heart my friend.

You know I am serious if you ever need a stop over or whatever in the US I am here to come visit or stay with! I just don't want you to ever feel alone or feel no one cares as I really do.

big sigh! sending you hugs and "anytime" ya want to send more pictures....If you want to catch up on my boring life...fb Debilyn McPhate!

hugs lady. debilyn



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AStrongerMe


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Good to hear from you! Sounds like the house sitting is a much needed break.

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Thanks for checking in! Sending you love and support!

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Thank you for checking in! So glad you are able to enjoy the peace of being away from the chaos!!!

Sending you hugs and support!!



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pinkchip


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Good to hear from you! Glad things are going pretty well.

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Hi.  I just signed up to this board today.  I read this post and my heart went out to you!  Living w an active A is total chaos and I am glad that you have "2" houses.  Looks as if your HP is really looking out for you.  Hang in there!  If no one has told you today, sister to sister in Al-anon, I love you!



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I don't think I ever got to acceptance about dealing with an alcoholic in the house.  I certainly yearned to get away but never did.  I think you must be very focused to keep it up.  Its almost like a sucking sensation to get back into the chaos.  I felt I could not walk away from the ex A but in the end I did.

maresie.



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Hello Pineapple

i to have walked in your shoes and know how difficult it is.  It is so great that you have a break in whatever form that takes. 

Please continue to come here and post. 

 You are part of of my internet family  and in  my daily prayers.



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