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I am living with a man who drinks about every other day, at least 8 beers at a time, not to mention vodka. after 3 or 4 beers, his personality changes and he becomes the nastiest person ever. i can't take it anymore and need to move, but I have nowhere to go. This man reminds me of my dad who I now care for and has wet brain. I have no one to help me and right now I am holed up in this room trying to stay away from the abuser because he keeps trying to suck me back in.
I'm so sorry you are struggling today. Keep reading here and feel free to ask any questions you may have. Find a face to face Al Anon meeting in your area, it will help you find some peace and serenity. Sending you lots of support today!
Do you have any friends or family remotely close enough that you could stay with temporarily? Or possibly a women's shelter? Keeping safe is very important.
Welcome. Al-anon has saved my sanity, my life, my health. It can help you too. Please, think about attending some face to face meetings.. that is where the magic happened for me. Its a family disease and it effects everyone involved. People take on different roles. I have learned what my roles were. I was the controlling, power struggling, fixer. I knew what was best for everyone else.. but me. My alcoholic fed off of me and I fed off of him. Now, I am Michelle. Its nice to be me again and not playing a part in a dramatic play. Hope to see you again!!! ((((hugs))))
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Michelle!
No one can take away your peace of mind unless you let them.
Alanon is free. It would be a great place to start because it would open you up to a support network of people you can turn to for help. That way you will not feel so trapped and other options will become available from there. Other people suggested shelters etc...that is something else to consider. The first step to an alanon meeting would be a good one.
I hope you can attend some Al-anon face to face meetings. That is what helped me most when I felt trapped and scared. I am sending you love and support on oyur journey!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Pack an emergency bag, including keys, a bit of money, and an extra set of clothes, to keep outside or somewhere you can grab it fast if needed.
Start a list of emergency numbers, shelters, women's groups, police, low cost legal aid in your area.
Find a few different AlAnon meetings to attend. Don't be afraid to ask someone after the meeting you feel comfortabe with for any information about sources of help in finding options for your situation. Get a call list too.
I am glad you were able to find a spot to try to avoid being sucked in to your A's insanity today. i understand how important that is and how exhausting it can be to keep resisting being drawn in. Ask your HP (Higher Power) for help in guiding the way back to your serenity and then watch and listen for the best path. Take care of you.
