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After living with my alcoholic, pot-smoking husband for 13 years (3 of them actively engaged in the cycle of using/relapsing) I've decided to leave for three months with my two little girls. I am so scared. I've never been this scared in my life. I'm basically giving up everything and walking away. We have a house, business, pets, etc. I just can no longer handle all this. I've given a temporary leave of absense where I work 6 hours per week and I'm not sure if I'll come back to that job. Not sure if I'll come back to my house. I'm trying to find temporary to permanent housing for my animals because even though he is staying here I cannot trust him enough to even take care of the animals. So sad. I'm placing all items that have meaning in a secure place because again I just don't know what I'll come home to or if I'll even have a home to come back to. This is one of the most difficult things I've ever had to do.
Living with this disease is so very painful. I urge you to seek out alanon Face to face meetings where-ever you set up your housing. The meetings, the support, the tools helped to save my sanity and life
I can relate to this share and had to start over with my 2 girls completly on my own. I am glad you came here to MIP! It is a lot to face, but with Al-anon I did it and am better for it. I am sorry you are having to face this and I hope you can make it to Al-anon face to face meetings and take care fo yourself and your kids! Sending you love and support!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
I will be praying for u and your children. I too have lost all my material goods but I gained safety and freedom from an abusive environment. I am reminded about child birth right about now. Not at all easy but worth every single second. Love your babies and let them love you back. Sending you strength and courage for the sake of YOU and your children. God bless.
I think that today it is starting to sink in a little that I might be leaving. My AH doesn't think I'll do it. He's spent the morning in small fits of anger towards me. I haven't responded. I've just allowed him to threaten me with all of these things (such as where is this money coming from? etc.) He's even asked me why I am waiting until May 1st and not moving now. Like he wants me to move now, immediatly. Is this type of behavior normal? I didn't expect him to kiss my butt but I guess it never seems to surprise me how he reacts to situations he causes by getting angry at me. Please give me some helpful advice here.
The program teaches us to never make a threat you don't intend to carry out. Lucky me... my ex was so ready to get me out he helped me move. U and your children remain in my prayers. Hang in there kid. :)
