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Count me in! I appreciate my home with the canine holidays. During the year I normally have plans with family for at least part of each holiday but the chance to relax and do something special for myself is a better fit for me on many holidays.
I do not think I really understood how stressful worrying over and dealing with the aftermath of holidays with my exAH was until it was not a part of my holidays.
Wishing everyone a safe and happy holiday!
Jen
-- Edited by Jennifer on Sunday 8th of April 2012 01:16:34 PM
Another post talks some about being alone on holidays and I wanted to address the issue in a new topic.
I have to say, that for the past year I have enjoyed every holiday because I've been able to relax and truly enjoy them, taking them back and making them for me again.
No more making it all about him and what HE gets, no more working and working and stressing and working to make sure nothing goes wrong, nothing happens to set him off and ruin the day and then bam, of course, something goes wrong, tantrums thrown, harsh words, slamming doors, another holiday marked off the list of enjoyable dates. No more dreading an upcoming event because of what HE will wind up doing to ruin the day. No more faking happiness in an attempt to ward off the inevitable. No more road-rage filled car trips ending with a sigh of relief I can't express because I have to appear happy so it doesn't set him off - oh my my what an insane merry-go-round that was!!!
I am sitting on my couch, Sound of Music playing on the TV; Easter bunny basket made up for sleeping-in teenager; later we plan on going to see Titanic 3-D and eating POPCORN for Easter dinner. No one will yell, no one will be cussing, screaming, mad, no threat of anger or danger, no storm clouds and nighttime will bring an end to a peaceful happy day.
Everybody deserves a holiday of peace and happiness - Happy Easter my friends!
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All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
I so agree, I am waiting for my 14 year old to wake up and check out her Easter basket my 3 year old already had candy for breakfast and it is very relaxing. Later today my exAH will pick them up for dinner at his parents and I will relax and watch a movie, they will be back before I know it. I was once again invited and I declined, because I can't pretend and use my energy that way. Sending you all a Happy Easter and I hope you are taking care of yourselves! Sending you all love and support!
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Ditto! I am really enjoying this Easter season as well. Without my AH's negativity, I find my heart is so open to my HP and fully being in the religious experience. I may be technically alone, but this also means there is nothing to distract my focus.
A new life and new stories await us who will surrender. Powerlessness isn't weak or vulnerable after all. Happy Easter, all.
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Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible be found in us. -from Pema Chödron's When Things Fall Apart
Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Thanks for the share! I have some Mac and cheese in the oven for my sweet child and a gluten/dairy free Mac and cheese for me. We are alone and quiet for the first time in years. We decided that we are going to make new traditions that work for us.
This is my second Easter without my AH in my life. No more worrying about him working on Easter at the bar and then coming home drunk. No more making excuses for why he can't join us for church, brunch or dinner.
I went to church with family members, had brunch with my whole family, and now I'm grilling bratwursts for my mom and daughter (we're all single this year due to various circumstances) and we're going to watch some old movies together. I can breathe, and there is peace. Thank you Lord for my life. It's different, but it's good. Time to work on me and to leave my AH to his HP.
The pastor of the church that I used to go to, who I haven't seen since I moved a year ago, whispered in my ear today: "I know what has happened. Let God take care of him now."
It's funny. I have a large family. 5 kids. 7 grandkids. I am in two fellowships, at least, and I have eight or nine sponcees. But I spent the better part of today alone and I don't mind. They all have their things they're doing. I got lots of texts and facebook messages so I guess I wasn't completely alone. But I just don't mind being alone. I think when being alone wasn't a conscious choice I made that it bothered me then to be alone but knowing now that I don't have to be alone if I don't want to, then I don't mind. So I guess I'm alone but I'm not lonely. Thanks for the topic LMH
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