Hi!  I think I already know the answer, I've a situation where my daughter and I are not talking agggain, she isn't returning my calls.  I spoke to my 7 y.o. granddaughter's father who she lives with, he told me  is very excited about coming on spring break, she has been gone since Dec. she is 4-5hrs. drive away.  The plan is for him to bring her 1/2 distance and I agreed to pick her up with my daughter.  They have been dicussing plans for her to visit.

My daughter doesn't have a reliable car or funds to make other arrangements, I called her last night so we could discuss the plans, left a message, no response.   Granddaughter's dad called this morning, I asked him if he had talked to my daughter and what her plans are, he said she told him she could drive when "we" come to pick her up 1/2 of the distance, a month ago when we were talking, she said she would pay for the gas and drive if I didn't want to drive.  The comment about the gas was another con since she doesn't have any money.

I would never let my granddaughter be hurt and dissappoined by not going to get her, I'm thinking I'll go and pick her up without saying any thing to my daughter, since she isn't returning my calls. I believe she will be safe staying with my daughter while she is here, until the 16th.  Then I'll have to use my funds and drive her back. 

Not sure this is the best thing to do, my other option is to keep calling my daughter, and allow myself to get upset at her  not picking up the phone or returning my call.  Not sure what her thinking is on this, any way I think its all about my granddaughter.  Thanks for listening.  Anything to keep my serenity. 

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