The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Considering I live in a larger urban area you'd think I could get lost from my exAH and family's scope. Today I was warned by a good friend (and yes i consider it a warning with good intentions at heart not gossip) that my exAH has told his family that he is moving back to this area to take care of me because of my disease progression. In a nut shell that is the most insane idea I have heard since the late night ranting raving delusions. I had hoped his recovery was bringing good things to his life but if he is already to the use Jen to justify his decisions stage ... it is not. I am already missing the safety and comfort that a couple thousand miles has given me. Back to the basic practices for me to prepare for my boundaries, emergency plans and so on. I have an urge to bite the bait and put the lie right but I think I can get over it fairly quickly ... this too shall pass.
Sparky has undergone 2 treatments of chemo, 1 of radiation and a surgery that removed more than half of each kidney plus 4 others for medical needs like central line problems. She is now 15 months old and over 20 pounds! As of this week with 2 rounds of chemo treatments left she appears to have no recurring tumors and the remaining kidney function is supporting her growth as of this time. It will be a long uphill battle with a not so great prognosis but she seems to enjoy surpassing everyone's expectations and the statistics My thoughts center on when my brother's family can just be a family that does not include 2-3 trips to the hospital and/or the ER a week. Although I will miss the spontaneous visits of my nephew during those times ... we can schedule them instead.
Meanwhile since getting my puppy and then taking in my non medical equipment friendly canine nephew .... MY LIFE IS NONSTOP PUPPY ANTICS. I am surprised this little house still stands and that I have a matching pair of shoes ... not to mention they have not figured out how to open the fridge door yet. YET is the key word I also continue to see the man who made it to 4 dates ... but to be honest I am too busy and not really interested in opening my life up more than dinner and conversation once a month to anybody at this time. Actually it is a trust issue as well ... I do not fully trust myself to see and heed the red flags to allow much more than that right now. Maybe someday, maybe not.
Thanks for the update!! What a little trooper Sparky is!! So glad to hear she is progressing and thriving many prayers for more wonderful news!
UGH on the ex .. Hopefully it's all just talk and things will work themselves out. I have found that with my ex A (first husband) at least he was never a man of action lots of talk and no follow through.
LOL on the puppies and shoes .. I have a kitten who is 5 months old going through the same issue only it's wires and we have lost MANY chargers!!!
While I love my brothers here on MIP and within the Alanon/AA fellowships .. the idea of dating is like .. dare I say barf? For me going slow is so not a bad thing enjoy the ride you never know where it will lead .. slow like the turtle is best.
Hugs P :)
__________________
Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
My thoughts center on when my brother's family can just be a family that does not include 2-3 trips to the hospital and/or the ER a week. Although I will miss the spontaneous visits of my nephew during those times ... we can schedule them instead.
I also continue to see the man who made it to 4 dates ... but to be honest I am too busy and not really interested in opening my life up more than dinner and conversation once a month to anybody at this time. Actually it is a trust issue as well ... I do not fully trust myself to see and heed the red flags to allow much more than that right now. Maybe someday, maybe not.