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Just turned my phone off because the calls wouldn't stop. he kept calling and telling me how i wasn't there for him when he needs me and he's so done with me. he knows just what to say to hurt me...saying im to busy with work and family and my animals... im literally having a panic attack because im so scared to turn my phone back on and get the hurtful words i know he'll leave. he wants it to be over..but he wants to hurt me while its getting over
I am so sorry you are going through this, I have been right where you are. Stay strong, this too shall pass. Here in support for you. You are not alone.
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It is very difficult to have a pity party when I am celebrating all the gratitude I have in my life!
It will aither work out, . . . or, . . . It will work out."
I've been there, too: the point where I turn off my phone because I can't take another hurtful word. Then, there is the fear of what I will find when I eventually turn my phone back on.
I find that putting my phone away for the night, getting a good night's sleep, and facing the words in the morning is often the best medicine.
II can so relate and I have even deleted his mean drunken words without listening to it these days. I deserve so much more than the verbal abuse my exAH has for me. Sending you love and support! Dettachment and not taking his disease personally helps me.
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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