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"Worry is the darkroom where negatives are developed." - Unknown
I think this quote should be a new al-anon slogan! I don't know how many times I've "projected" about things the alcoholic was going to do (or someone else for that matter) that never occured. I've wasted so many minutes in the course of a day worrying about some thing, some person, or some situation ... and in the end, nothing. The world did not come to an end, computers did not shut down with the year 2000, and life goes on.
Sometimes I think I create my own chaos. If things get to easy, too smooth, to predictable... I have to stir the pot, project, forsee, predict, postulate. I don't like life too easy, too simple, too mundane, too... boring. So I have to run out and "create" some crisis, some catastrophe, just to feel "alive". Now how sick is that?
I think in al-anon, sometimes it just takes time to adjust to our new "normal" (to coin a phrase from Jamie Lee Curtis), because our old "normal" was insanity. Sane behavior is unfamiliar territory, uncomfortable at best, excruciatingly boring at worst. How do we "adjust" to this new normal? One Day at a Time, till it becomes habit, familiar, comfortable. This takes time. We didn't get to insane in a day, and we won't find sanity overnight. Progress not perfection.
Just a few thoughts at 5 a.m. from someone trying to find that "new normal".
Overcome
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I can Overcome all things through my HP who strengthens me.
My new normal without my A is this: Financial stability. it's amazing. no surprise spending sprees on paintball gear, guns, or collectable toys and games...(or whatever the whim of the month was).
Though I am still living paycheck to paycheck as a single mom, for the most part I can make ends meet. Working some extra over the summer I will have an emergency fund..and be able to buy new tires. Wow. Thats huge. And no one is going to spend that money without me knowing it!
I am still struggling emotionally...but I do see improvements in my life...
LOL .. I can relate to this more than you even know!! I agree those new normals are a little hard to get used to.
Great quote to start the morning thank you so very much for sharing!!!
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
