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well im finally learning i dont have to try to be perfect.when ive set myself up by trying to be perfect i only set myself up to fail and then feel bad when i can not reach that goal.now i will do the best and can do and that is easy.and if that is not good enough for someone else that is their problem.i will do my best at everything i do today and i can look back and know i tried.
Thanks for the reminder. This is a big one for me. And thanks Betty for your response. I try to remember when I am busy beating myself up for not being perfect, i am taking myself away from the present and all that there is to enjoy in the moment. Thanks again!
it is nice to just be humble and human, make mistakes, get up, dust off the old knee caps, and keep on going. Sounds like youre headed straight to, what Green Eyes is calling, Serenityville. Haha
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Michelle!
No one can take away your peace of mind unless you let them.
This is a great reminder! It sounds like you are being gentle with yourself. That is something I needed to be reminded of today.
I have been the queen of "trying to appear perfect" on the outside for years and years. I always had people tell me how they thought I had it all together and was always so at peace. Well, I must have put on a good show because inside I was a complete mess...a huge mess!. My husband and my therapist knew how horrible I felt inside. I was afraid to let anyone else see my weaknesses and struggle. One reason was that I felt I would be abandoned like I was in the past with my family of origin. All of my experiences in my life and even the ones of pretending to have no problems led me to the rooms of alanon where I could be open and honest and real. It is so freeing to not try to be so perfect. In fact last night I went to a meeting and realized that I had spilt a bunch of chocolate ice cream all over my pants and nice pink jacket. I was a little embarrassed at first and then I told myself that it didn't matter...who really cares....and I let it be. There is such freedom in letting go of perfection and I know it is starting to ripple out in every area of my life. This program brings freedom. Thanks for this topic 1 day at a time. Hugs 2 u!
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It is very difficult to have a pity party when I am celebrating all the gratitude I have in my life!
It will aither work out, . . . or, . . . It will work out."
