The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Thank you to everyone for your support. I am still at my parents and have met with victim services. They have confirmed my thoughts of the abuse I have put up for way too long. It's amazing that on my drive there, I thought, hm, is this the right thing to do? Yes, yes it is and I will pursue this. I feel calm, I feel good, I just want to get out of the financial conundrum and know where I live.
I'm safe, supported and loved. He is sitting in the house drinking, possibly using drugs and deteriorating. All I want now is out of this relationship and the financial obligations related to the house.
Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Thank you all for your positive comments and support. I have had a hard couple of days, but with each day I realize that I can do this and I will do this. I'm in the process of finding a lawyer who can help me get back into the house and him out. It is my primary place of work and also my daughter's home. I need for her to have the stability and to get back to a normal routine. My parents are amazing and are helping me out immensley right now but I am feeling a need for independence and space to think.
I am so happy I found this wonderful group of supportive people who understand my feelings and the stress, worry and anxiety of this decision. I got so much support from my face to face meeting this week that I am overwhelmed with a feeling of contentment. When the stress and financial worries are not allowed to pop into my head, I think about one day at a time and the peace of my decision. Just knowing that I will not have to be afraid in my own home and not have to walk on eggshells around him brings peace.
