5 things I like to do .. - Al-Anon Family Group

Michelle814 · ~*Service Worker*~

5 things I like to do ..

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

AAANNNDDDD .. let the healing begin because I got nothing at the moment. confuse I'm not talking about what defines me either, I love being a mom, .. it's a part of who I am however outside of that, ... I"m talking about what do I like to do. evileye

Needless to say .. I will be putting some time and effort into this over the next 10 days to come up with something I like to do.

What does everyone else like to do? What gives them passion? Need some good ESH!!!

Hugs P :)

respect · Veteran Member

I like to read. It let's your mind escape into another world.

I like to be outside, listening to all the noises of nature.

I like yoga...although it's been a year.

I like to snuggle on the couch with my pups.

I like to travel...or maybe put more correctly, I like the idea of travel, as I haven't been able to do much of it yet.

surfgirl123 · Senior Member

Pushka, what a great question! When I started really trying to focus on myself I asked myself this question and realized I didn't know anymore. My world had shrunk to dealing with my AH, everything else went out the door. Now that I'm working on it though I am trying to recapture myself. So far:

I love interior design and architecture - just set me loose in a Barnes and Noble in that section of the store and I get lost.
I love putting on my headphones and listening to the music I love while exercising, it really does refresh me (80's music is the best!)
I love playing with my dog and giving her all the love and affection that she gives back to me.
I actually enjoy my work, the people I get to be around for 9 hours a day are a wondeful escape for me and give me human interaction that is supportive, real and fun.

:)

danni · Senior Member

With my two little ones, extra time for just me is sparse, though I am trying to find ways to get more time for myself. I LOVE to read, and I always make sure to have a good book (fiction) going. I buy them cheap and used, so if I don't like them, it is easier for me to let it go and move on. I like a bit of gardening, but I have limited it to things that don't need much water these days :) . I think your proactive approach is wonderful and inspiring. hugs!

ilovedogs · ~*Service Worker*~

I don't have too much time to myself. Homeschooling my son who also plays competitive tennis takes a LOT of my free time, along with running the house, bill paying, cooking, etc. I did join a tennis team just for me. I have practice with the ladies once a week and we have matches every Wed AM. My son brings his school work with him and sits in the clubhouse doing history, language arts, etc. I really enjoy my time with some new friends, many of whom I have just met. I also like to read, do research online, hike, and go for walks. Some nights, my son and I will go for hour long walks at 7 PM. We live in a community that is close to hiking trails and we walk along the bottom streets along the edge of the hillside, look at the stars, and listen for coyotes! Oh, and I'm a HUGE nature buff. Our house has view fencing that looks out at a natural wash and sometimes I just sit outside and watch the quail, the rabbits, and a few coyotes go by.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

HI dear little lady. You sound pretty good for what happened!

I love to research, love to fill my brain with all kinds of things. My passion there is the Bible. It really is soooo interesting. The concepts are so simple and it all makes sense. There are guides to everything you can think of.

I love animals becuz they cushion me from the world. When I was where you are I walked dogs at the Humane Society. There were moms or dads doing that and the kids were holding the cats. I liked that becuz it helped the animals, and people as well.

Reading takes me away.

Many time Pushka, I had to make myself do something. Just start it and go with it. That was a huge help. As a lot of the time I wanted to check out. I had no kids at home. Mother just died. ugh.

Now I have the guinea pigs. Got three huge ones in. 5-6 pounders. My passion is they are so terrified and I love to calm them and help them to feel safe. No one is going to eat them. These are the kind people eat. rescued.

Sometimes I look up and see that no matter what is going on around me, the earth is the same. Waterfall keeps going, the moss is still swinging in the wind up here. fir trees all over, river is emerald green again. I remember that things go on.

I like it when friends come by or I go to their house.

Anyway good for you for hanging in. Hey you are a mom yes, but you are also a woman, take care of her too. She is your best friend.

hugs,debilyn

respect · Veteran Member

One little side note/question...people eat Guinea Pigs?!!! Who knew?

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

I love this subject, when I first found myself alone I thought I would have to learn to knit and with how stir crazy I was I would make everyone full body suits. On a serious note that is how wrapped up in my A I was, who knew I would eventually like alone time relaxing and walking the dog regularly. I now enjoy me and do most my reading and journaling while my kids are with my exAH. Sending you love!

likemyheart · ~*Service Worker*~

On a warm summer evening when everything else is done and nothing is pressing I love to put pandora music (roku box on tv) to old country music (johnny cash, don williams, etc.) and sit in the gliding chair I assembled last year and read or compute, chat online with mom or just play games - people walk by and i chat, dog barks, plays with cat (or tries to) while cat tries to avoid the playing dog....

On the rare occasion I am able to find my way to the beach (4-5 hour drive away) I love walking along the shore, my feet frozen red as the waves wash over them; then close to sundown I sit on the sand and make holes, watching the water and sand fill it back up, digging out the wet sand and letting it drip through my fingers on top of itself to make a tree; pretty soon i have a whole forest of sand trees with shadows growing longer as the sun begins to set, sky turning different colors, clouds adding to the beauty of the sunset and people walking by remarking on the scene I've unconsciously built.

Ok, now the sun is gone and I'm back at my beachside hotel, pile of firewood at the ready, kindling piled and starter added, match to flame to kindling and I make fire (grunt grunt), add the wood bit at a time and build it up till my cheeks are red and toes are toasty (toasty toes - sounds like Shrek food!); something in fire mesmerizes me, i love to work my way through burning a stick, let it catch fire, put it out, fire again, put it out, moving the wood around, watching the sparks fly - don't really like eating them but roasting marshmallows is fun, I"m a burner - love to catch em on fire and hear the roar as they burn; eat the burnt outside (after blowing the flames out of course) and burning the next layer, rinse and repeat. Ah but then there is the challenge of roasting a mallow to perfectly brown perfection - gotta try a few of those too.

I'm a weird sort sometimes - I like shoveling snow. I think its because I can look behind me and see the job done, see the progress and it feels so good physically working to move the snow.

Hmm, as number 5 I'll choose playing pinochle with my family - I never laugh as hard as when we're together, we all play to win but don't care who wins - we help each other win, even if they are the opponent - its a grand time every time. Wish I could do it more often.

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