New here. Nice to meet you all. - Al-Anon Family Group

movingstillx · Newbie

New here. Nice to meet you all.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi and welcome. Well in over ten years here have never had such a unique share! Very nice. (c:

Sadly yes this is what they do. I couldn't find my tools...always something was missing.

In Al Anon it just does not matter what they do, its what we do. We have to look at what we want in our life, how we can protect ourselves and our kids.

We cannot trust them at all. Do not give them any pins to your cards. Have mail sent somewhere else. We have to really think of different ways to live if we live with an A. A as in Addict.

They have a disease that cannot be cured. We cannot make them do anything.

In Al Anon we learn tools to be able to live with them. does no good to argue or fight at all. I liken it to getting into a fight with someone who has a high fever. They have no idea what they are saying, their brain is affected and they are sick.

So I hope you keep coming. Great book. "Getting Them Sober" by Toby Rice Drew volumeone. love,debilyn

pineapple · ~*Service Worker*~

(((kelleigh))) It's good to meet you. I'm sorry you have to deal with this situation, it certainly can be difficult. But I'm glad you found this place. There is so much to be learned here. In spite of your A's addiction, you can make your life better for you and your two beautiful children. Please keep coming back.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hello Kelleigh

Thank you for a very unique first post. I am so sorry that you have experienced the dreadful pain and loss of the world of addiction. You are not alone and have found a place of understanding and healing.

I would like to suggest that you attend alanon regularly. We have face to face meetings in the community so I would recommend that you check the Internet or the white pages of your telephone directory for meeting telephone number and call for locations

Meetings,help to break the isolation and in the process we learn to verbalize our inner thoughts, feelings, hope and fears. There is recovery so please keep coming back.

PS

Just a thought- the Internet and this site are public domaine It may not be wise to have your picture and thoughts associated together. That is the reason we use log on names and avatars in our pictures Please consider changing the presentation

lightblue2 · Veteran Member

I am in the early stages of recovery.... and stumbling along. Thanks for sharing.

Michelle814 · ~*Service Worker*~

HI!!! welcome!! Its kind of cool to see a face. So happy youre here. Keep coming back. Youve received great ESH already. Just know everyone here can relate and/or understand. We are all here for the same reason and the only way I took step 1 was from someone taking step 12.. as a wise woman once told me. So soak up the wisdom and support you are given here. youre worth it!!!

respect · Veteran Member

Wow, Kelleigh, you are so strong. I hope you see that in yourself and are proud of that.

You just told my story, sans the children. But including, and certainly not limited to, missing GPS's.

I started in Al-anon in July. I try to make it to one face to face meeting a week, although sometimes I go more if I need it. But getting on this website has also been a godsend. I suggest using them both. Also, when people give you their phone numbers and say to call if you need to talk, they mean it...and it really helps.

Sometimes I am inclined to believe when my husband tells me I am crazy, over-reacting, or making things up in my head...but with 5 years of history on this roller coaster I am finally starting to realize that my gut is often smarter than my head and certainly smarter than my heart. If your gut tells you something is wrong it usually is, the hard part is actually listening to it. Sometimes we get too get at telling our gut to shut up.

Listen to yourself. Try to love yourself. And definitely find a meeting. Good luck with everything.

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