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I've been getting the silent treatment from AH for almost a week now. He got upset because I didn't want to be woken up at 3:00 in the morning. Is it wrong that I'm finding it quite peaceful? I'm going about my days and taking care of me. I am not going to be the one to apologize for wanting to sleep as I have to get up early so I'm just doing my everyday things and not being bothered.
A year ago, I would have nagged and pushed, now it's up to him to help himself.
Good for you! My AH used to give me the silent treatment all through the 15 years he was sober in our marriage. I really could have used Al Anon even way back then!
I so relate to your experiences! I, too, am getting the silent treatment. I noticed, though, that I have no self pity. I'm grateful to Al-Anon for showing me how I might live in peace even in the midst of the imposed silence.
It is rather quite amazing how much al anon has helped. I had a friend over for a visit, it was great, am reading a good book, enjoying time with my daughter. He's out right now and for the first time in a long time, I don't really care where he is or where he went. I can be happy, I can live my life, I can enjoy the precious things around me. No self pity, but a lot of peace :)
Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
