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GreenerGrass


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My best friend died, leaving behind her husband and seven year old. This is so devastating, and is making me realize again how powerless we are over others. There is nothing anyone could have done to make her stay. We can't control other people at all. I just feel life is so unpredictable and not turning out the way I planned. Life is taking all these twists and turns, But I know God is in control. I'm just trying to give up my control and expectations. I'm sad, and can't go to the hardware store for bread. So, im taking this to my friends on this board. I'm finding this death so hard to accept. My friend was a great friend to me, an awesome Mom and a sweet wife to her husband. It's just so hard to beleive she didn't get to finish raising her daughter.

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Hugs GG, So sorry for the tragic loss of a good friend. Hugs again p ;)

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Pushka


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Hugs GG, So sorry for the tragic loss of a good friend. Hugs again p ;)

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danni


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I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers go out to you, your friend, and her family. hugs

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((((GreenerGrass)))

So very sorry for this painful  loss.  Acceptance is difficult at times like this

In my thoughts and prayers

 



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Doozy


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I'm so sorry for your sad loss, gg. It's terrible to lose a special friend and for her family to lose their wife, mother, daughter. Sending wishes for strength your way!

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Michelle814


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I am so sorry. We're here for you. HP has big plans.

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Grace7


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So sorry, extending my deepest sympathies. I too lost my close friend years ago, she left a 4 and 6 yr old behind. It is so hard to wrap your head around this kind of loss...especially when it IS too soon in our viewpoint. I know your heart hurts and so do many others. I will remember you in prayer for the coming days. Hugs, and I wish I could give you a nice cup of tea and kleenex with that too.


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(((((greenergrass))))) smile



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Sending you love and support at this time!!!

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Greener Grass, that is a big loss. Lots of hugs and support to you and your friend's family.

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Debilyn


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That is so horrible. I am so sad for you and her family!

You have a good attitude. You are right, we have no control. If I could have kept my bil from dying I would have done anything.

Have lost such close people to me. Please make sure you are tender to you. This will take so much energy, its a wound.

Sending you my love and prayers,debilyn



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grammie


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(((GreenerGrass)))  I am so sorry for your loss, its times like this that our Faith is the only thing that can bring us through. I lost my closest friend 2 months ago and even tho she was older as I am,  it really took me by suprise. Her husband has been fighting stage 4 cancer for 2 years and all my prayers were centered in his direction and then bam out of now where she was in the hospital and in days she was gone. I was in shock, as if I had been hit over the head or something. I have found that my faith and the awareness that this was HP's plan was the only thing that carried me through the pain. I know my friend is no longer in pain or worried about her husband, she is now resting with the angels. I also lost my mother in law just days ago and I just wanted to say that this takes time, our grieving takes time and accepting takes time...But with the help of program friends and taking care of ourselves, this too shall pass. May you find peace in your time of sorrow..Love in recovery, grammie



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