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I just got in touch with a friend who I really hadn't been in contact with in about 5-8 years. I became friends with her 30 years ago and was called an aunt to her children who I knew since their births. I lost touch mainly because of her and her husband's drinking at the encouragement of my husband to just distance myself from them. I found the daughter on facebook on New Year's Eve this year and contacted her...!
Sadly she told me that her father passed away in 2010 due to his alcoholism. He was just 52. I have since been in touch with her mother, my friend, and am happy that she went to treatment just prior to her husband's death and has been sober now since June 2010.
I hope to stay friends and in touch and I would like to support her sobriety. She told me that she does not go to AA and the children (now 16 and 18) have not been involved in any counseling or alateen or anything.
I don't want to butt in or act codependent, but I was wondering what or if anything I can do to offer more support?
Acceptance is a biggie , she is where she is accept that to date she has no support , if she asks you could suggest she try AA ,she also qualifies for Al-Anon as she was married to an alcoholic , for now accept where shes at share what your learning in your program , ya never know she just might come along out of curiosity .. Louise
Reaching out to an old friend is what being a friend is all about. Since you know something about all this you might be more help than you can possilby imagine.
I don't find harm in mentioning how Al-Anon has helped you. But if she is not interested in AA or Alateen for her kids... then I would not internalize it or press the issue.
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Michelle!
No one can take away your peace of mind unless you let them.
Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps; we TRIED TO CARRY THE MESSAGE TO OTHERS and practice these principles in all our affairs.
Seems to me you have something in common to talk about and some ESH to add to it.
A similar thing is going on in my family also...My spouse and I are saying that "we know and know that we know and have stuff to share". What they do with it is up to them. Last time they chose to do nothing with it and all kinds of stuff continued to end as it is supposed to with this fatal progressive disease. Part of the action is to turn it over to your HP after you do your part. Yep you are powerless still and not in control so practice that also (it's a principle)...give away what you've been freely given and then "Love anyway".
Ever read the St. Francis of Asissi Prayer?...Lord make me and INSTRUMENT OF THY PEACE..."? Give away what has worked for you.
Good of you to bring this here cause "what do I do now"? always seems to be a tough question.
I don't think it could hurt to bring the message of what this recovery program has done for you. Just say what you want to say and Let Go and Let God with it. I am glad you have been brought back together. Sending you love and support!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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