Ok this behavior is scary. I agree I would call a hotline for DV. Pushka is right. This is not sane behavior and you are not safe.

As far as the garage, you can get a latch at Walmart for a couple bucks and a lock to lock it on the inside. I know you are not thinking straight right now.

Also it is recommended that the person get all the abusers things out of the house so they have no reason  or need to be there. maybe take his stuff to a relatives or friends.

PLEASE protect yourself. I put bells on all my doors and gates outside so I can hear if anyone is there, but then my dogs bark loud.

A good friend on here said to keep a spray bottle with something in it, I think it was ammonia? And keep these bottles by your doors your bed where you sit in the kitchen etc.

We have no idea if he is using or not. Al Anon teaches us to think about our needs. What do you need to feel safe?

I don't know what you have to say to get an RO but here you have to feel your life is threatened. Why not get the RO going again!!??

Please keep us updated. love,debilyn

This is a very worrying situation.  You may have read the thread posted earlier about someone whose alcoholic husband killed her when she was asleep. These tragedies happen. I hope you will take protecting yourself very, very seriously.  Your husband is clearly out for revenge, does not feel any hesitation at invading your personal space, and is not a safe person.

I don't see any reason not to get a restraining order again, but the problem is that a restraining order only protects you after the fact.  He has to violate the restraining order before they prosecute him. That is a very nervewracking situation.

The number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1800799SAFE(7233). (http://www.thehotline.org/).  You may want to call them for advice on how to proceed.  They have a number of suggestions on their website as well, for instance:

If getting a restraining order and the offender is leaving:

• Change your locks and phone number.
• Change your work hours and route taken to work.
• Change the route taken to transport children to school.
• Keep a certified copy of your restraining order with you at all times.
• Inform friends, neighbors and employers that you have a restraining order in effect.
• Give copies of the restraining order to employers, neighbors and schools along with a picture of the offender.
• Call law enforcement to enforce the order.
• Identify safe areas of the house where there are no weapons and there are ways to escape. If arguments occur, try to move to those areas.
• If violence is unavoidable, make yourself a small target; dive into a corner and curl up into a ball with your face protected and arms around each side of your head, fingers entwined.
• If possible, have a phone accessible at all times and know what numbers to call for help. Know where the nearest pay phone is located. Know the phone number to your local battered womens shelter. Dont be afraid to call the police.
• Let trusted friends and neighbors know of your situation and develop a plan and visual signal for when you need help.
• Practice how to get out safely.
• Keep weapons like guns and knives locked away and as inaccessible as possible.
• Make a habit of backing the car into the driveway and keeping it fueled. Keep the drivers door unlocked and others locked for a quick escape.

• Try not to wear scarves or long jewelry that could be used to strangle you.

I hope you never need to know these things.  But please take good care of yourself.  We can't afford to lose you.

I hope you have a face-to-face Al-Anon meeting you can get to?  A sponsor and local support could be so valuable.  Nobody should have to handle this alone.  I hope you'll also keep coming back.  Hugs.