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sarebaer


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Last night my friend's ah shot and killed her while her two babies slept! This is so unreal, such a tragedy. I know she was trying to separate herself from him but was torn because of the kids, and had said he was "rarely" violent. There were so many red flags, and I tried to be there for her when she needed me. She had finally started getting things in order(behind his back) to move to her moms. He must of realized what she was doing, and snapped. She was such an awesome person. She was only 32 and her babies are 2 and 3. I feel some how I failed her. Please pray for her family and their great loss.


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Oh boy, this makes me so mad. I'm so very sorry for your loss. A friend of mine just lost her husband to suicide 2 weeks ago, my son was friend's with her son, too. It's been hard. He was depressed and went off his meds and then he shot himself in a hotel parking lot. But, I kept thinking that at least he didn't take it out on the family. I will be praying for those children and for her family.

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This is horrifying. I am sorry for your loss, and I am praying for your friend and her children. Words cannot express my horror at this. hugs

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I'm so sorry for your loss and the families loss. It's so tragic for the kids because they didn't loose just one parent in that single act. My prayers will be with you all. Hugs p

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I am so sorry for your loss. this makes me so sad!

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Dear Sarebaer

I am so very saddened to hear of this dreadful loss. You cared about her and offered support.  You certainly did not fail her.

 Prayers  and thoughts being offered.



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Oh how awful! Makes me so mad when the innocent ones suffer. And you are also one of the innocent ones. You did what you could. Now you have to trust that your HP has control over all of it.

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HORRIBLE tragedy!!!! You know of course you did all you could. Those poor kids!

This is what makes me carefull step into someones inventory when they come here and even mention abuse!

I am sure you did all you could. that is all we can do! When a person is in that situation they are blinded by their own emotions.

So sad you lost a friend. Take care of you. love,deb



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Wow I am so sorry for you and the lil ones loss. That is why I eventually left my exAH, I felt he may be able to snap at some point since he would get so irrational and stories like this only make me feel like I made the right decision. Sending you love and extra support at this time!

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I am Deeply Sorry for YOU and the tragic loss of your friend, and for those babies~!!! I will not teeter around the topic of abuse. I was too personally affected first hand by my sons previous girl friend who was murdered by her ex husband, who then committed suicide. I Know the horror of that event and how it penetrated every cell of my being. I can Only Imagine what you yourself are experiencing right now...my Heart goes out to You and I send you Hugs....and Prayers for healing of your heart.

I was physically assaulted on a home health case by the father of the child whom I was the nurse for. He used me as the battering ram against his wife. He strangled me, picked me up like a rag doll and threw me across the room when he then wanted me out of the way to get at her and beat of her more (after she escaped from the corner he had us in). This former buffed up Army Major (who was busted and demoted for domestic violence I later learned) was in a mens Bible Study with my Father no less. The moment came in the pummeling and cracking my head against hers and the door frame repeatedly while being strangled left me in this other place where it became silent, peaceful and me "knowing" I was going to die. I wondered where my children would be when they learned the news etc. I was bruised from my waist up including my face when all was said and done. He went to jail until Mamma bailed him out. The police officer said this was the 4th time he himself had been out to their home. He was going to charge the Mom with child endangermentt IF he was called out there again. I suffered from PTSD after that event. It affected my going to work. I embarked on learning Everything I could about Domestic Violence. The sad statistics are: It takes an average of 7 attempts to leave before a woman finally does. The woman is not leaving only the "bad guy", but her whole life when she leaves, her home, her neighborhood, her childrens school, their neighbors, friends, often their church...Many losses occur when she finally gets out. LEAVING, it is the Most dangerous time for a battered woman.

I too suffered from playing in my mind again and again, the conversations I had with this girl trying to talk her out of going back to her "house" which she claimed was "hers" as she worked and payed for it. I told her her life was far more valuable than any property or land....she was dead in 2 weeks and I watched the horror my son went through...even in his bad choice to connect with her in his rebound from his divorce. She offered to come help me pack for my move, I declined. I felt guilty for not accepting...or not talking her out of going back... I KNOW you did All you could possibly do. Now, you are left to pick up pieces for the babies, and for you. Bless your heart.

May the memories of special times with your friend enfold you and your heart for the rest of your days.

Most cannot begin to comprehend the depth of pain from such a senseless act. I will be remembering you, may God hold you extra close in the days to come. God Speed and may He send extra doses of healing Love for Life to the babies.

Come back, and TALK about this ALL you need too. It will help bring healing to you.

Gracie

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