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likemyheart · ~*Service Worker*~

Horrible Happening

Michelle814 · ~*Service Worker*~

this is so sad. Im so sorry. The truth of the matter is, though you obviously feel quite compassionately about him and love his heart, there is nothing you can do in the matter. I spent alot of year internalizing alot of pain that was not my own and this really damaged me in a way. It made me feel stress and worry and anxious. Just remember you are a kind, loving person and just expressing your compassion and that you are there for him mentally is all you can do. Prayers for you and your ex ah.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

That's awful for anyone to go thru!! Sadly you are right, and this may be a huge part of a wake up call.

I know you care and it has to be so hard. There are many groups that have free things to help people get back on their feet.

Hey it is just stuff. I have lost stuff too from AH breaking it. I am talking great gramas stuff. rrrrr

After losing things things mean about zero to me now. Hopefull he will glean a lesson of some kind. I know not caring about "stuff" has freed me big time. He may be very fortunate he was not there or he would be part of that mess!

sending hugs and love to you both! debilyn

kris10 · Senior Member

Oh how horrible and low people can be.. To go as low as to spread someones ashes... Thats just horrible.. You know what though!? You are upset that there is nothing you can do BUT you already did something. You were there to listen!! Sometimes thats all we can do or all people really need is for someone to listen.. Even if you were there and had all the money in the world you couldnt have paid for new ashes or anything with any sort or sentiment. What I have learned from my A is that "stuff" is VERY important to someone who is used to loosing everything else.. If you have lose family, friends, and partner, your stuff is all you have.. My A is very very protective over his "stuff". Even if its (in my opinion) unimportant invaluable crap.... Dont be so hard on yourself!! You did what you could (listen) and im sure that is alot more than others would do...

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs,

You did what you could do I'm sure it meant a lot to him just to have someone understand and give him some compassion. It is horrible that some people do awful things to other fellow people. I hope they can catch who did this.

Sending love and support your way, P :)

youfoundme · ~*Service Worker*~

I have come to find that I have to live life on life's terms. Whatever it throws at me or my loved ones, I have to take it as it comes and remember my new tools to use in times of crisis or trouble...as they say *&%$ happens, its what we do to deal with it that counts :) Don't be hard on yourself, and keep taking care of you :) HUGS

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Dear Like my heart

I am so sorry This is a dreadful assult. I will pray for him that HP gives him the courage, wisdom and serenity to handle this horror.

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

Sending you love and support!

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